Being asked for money...again! Grrrr!

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Ok, so i posted here at the beginning on sep about a friend who was moving and asking for £100 and making it all very urgent and as if without my money she can't move. (Will try to link in a minute). Back then i said no, she moved. All good, i went to visit her in new place once.
However last week i got a text 'hi, how are you. Sorry to ask but perhaps you could help out with money. Got a car but have nothing left for insurance:('. I must admit my blood boiled and i did not reply anything. Now she just rang me whilst im at work- i didnt pick up.

I would have no issues saying no. But she's invited and coming to my DC birthday party in a few weeks so it's awkward. And we have a few common friends.
So how do i tell her to fuck off in a nice way and so that she never asks again? Arrrrgh.

Why the fuck would you get a car if you dont have money for insurance. And if you do surely you can spread the cost and pay monthly? I just feel being taken for a ride again and i hate it!

I would never all a friend to land me money! Well, not unless it was a really serious desperate situation, like I couldn't feed my children. Even then, I would feel awful and embarrassed. Say no and feel no remorse!

I did user, i did:)
It's amazing how these ppl operate- in her new place (been there nearly 2+months) she has already found someone to take kids to school and look after them when needed at a fraction of cost! How do they do it? Not jealous just kind of amazed. Why can't i get discounted childcare, cost a small fortune every month!

Just an update and a bit of venting. She seems to have sorted her insurance somehow without my financial input. But she was at kids b'day party today and apart from 'hi' did not spoke a single sentence to me! Wtf?!! It upset me, it was as if she was deliberately blanking me! What a cow...

I know arf. It was a common friend's party, mine is next weekend and quite honestly i hope something will come up and she won't come. Though having in mind her brass neck, i bet she'll be here.

Do update us next week OP if she turns up.

What a surprise, you aren't useful to her so she basically blanks you. She's a bit cheaper, don't worry about her I would totally be stewing about being ignored by her.

Bitch not bit cheaper! Bloody autocorrect.

I never lend money that I can't afford to lose. I once went on holiday with a girl who kept forgetting to go to the cashpoint. I had just been made redundant the day before the holiday with only four week's wages. The job I do isn't particularly easy to get. She was a high earner. We came back and she owed me £140 - I never received a penny and I sacked her from my life. Still annoys me 16 years later. What kind of friend robs from a recently unemployed person?
Then there was the time I lived abroad and a work colleague wanted me to lend him the equivalent of £1090. It was extremely awkward because he had a very young family and I knew he was struggling but there was no way I could afford to lose that money - and lose it I would as he never improved his finances. He kept calling and calling and I kept saying no but then the sob stories would be texted to me "but I will lose my villa" "but I have to pay the school fees" (no free schools there sadly). It was really awkward. I do wonder how they are - they were living hand to mouth in a country where a missed bill could get you slung in jail.
Anyway, sack this chancer from your life. She's not even a nice person.

I had a 'friend' who asked to 'borrow' £700 once. We'd only be friends about a month. Obviously I said no. I decided I didn't a friend that cost that much.

What upset me most is that i found myself questioning the decision about lending her money and wondering if it was me being a bitch. She has known the hostess and other mums longer than me and was chatting to them and being nice. I know for a fact at least one of mums has lent her money in the past. I felt kinda pushed out and was thinking how come others dont see what i see (e.g. that she's a user) and wondered perhaps im being too harsh and too judgemental. Hey ho. To be honest i dont care. I would feel worse if i had given her the money like a mug.

Why does she keep asking you?!? Are you her only friend?

No don't lend her anything. I know it's hard, but she's being cheeky, so can you!