Cheeky To Ask?

[LouBlue1507]

Hi ladies need some advice on how to approach this...

When DD (13 weeks) was born MIL kindly said she wants to buy us DDs cot mattress and linen when she's big enough to go in the cot.

The time has come, DD has outgrown her Moses basket and needs to go in a proper cot. I mentioned to MIL yesterday that DD is too big for her Moses basket now and she said 'Ohhh she's still got plenty of room in there'... She really doesn't!

This has now given me the impression that she no longer wants to buy the cot (absolutely fine). I'm more than happy to go to buy one tomorrow but I'm worried MIL will be miffed. DH has said maybe she has forgot, but I think it's cheeky to ask her!

I don't know what to do! Do I risk being cheeky offer MIL to buy the matters (it is needed ASAP though).. Or do I just buy one tomorrow myself? Tbh I'd prefer to just buy one myself, I hate relying on others for things but I don't want to upset MIL!

Thanks

Umm. We had something very similar. It was my parents and a pram. We even end up in the pram shop they wanted miles and lies from us, close to them. Chose the pram with thier choices, this is after pre browsing. It got to the check out and I paid, there was definatly no assistance or it beta gift. This was from my mum and dad. Have not relied on anything they say after this. People change their mind.

Just tell her you are off to buy one, thus giving her the opportunity to chip in or not. Suggest you've had disturbed nights because she hits sides in her sleep. Mil can still buy additional linen for Christmas, or whenever.

Depends on your relationship, I suppose. My PIL are always very generous and it makes me wary of seeming grasping, so I always ask my husband to discuss anything like this with them. A simple reminder that she offered and notice that you want the baby in her cot in, say, two weeks' time, so if she still wants to contribute then now is the time? Otherwise you completely understand and you will be buying the cot and linen yourselves shortly.

Navy, I think it's because blood family relationships are usually more robust than in-law relationships, and people don't want to risk giving offence by looking greedy. Completely understandable. I would speak to my family rather than expecting my husband to do it.

It would be odd to wait for Christmas, she'll grow a lot in 2 months she may roll out of it. If you feel she needs it now, she needs it now!

I think it's more diplomatic, Navy. If I think about my own family, I can get away with saying things to them that are controversial and they won't hold a grudge, whereas they might think my DH was being quite forward and rude (not that he ever would be) so I wouldn't put him in that situation. I expect the same consideration from him when it comes to maintaining harmonious relations with his family.