To want to punch my neighbour!?!?

[FruitCider]

Obviously I wouldn't... but I'm sat here so angry!

Back story....
I live in a block of flats, each communal hallway leads to 6 flats, 2 on each floor.

The household across from us was previously a working couple, were lovely, very respectful and quiet. They sold up a year ago, and the property was empty until 2 weeks ago.

A lady and her 13 year old granddaughter moved in, they are privately renting from what I gather. They are VERY NOISY. Nearly every evening when my 4 year old child is going to go to bed they have had a stream of visitors in and out, shouting and shrieking in the hall way and in their flat, banging, crashing etc.

The noise has been so bad I have had to go in the hall way/knock on their door and ask them to be quiet 6 times in 2 weeks. My child is exhausted. Their usual bedtime is 6pm, it's now gone 7 and the neighbours are showing no sign of being quiet any time soon. They have slammed the front door 5 times in the last 20 minutes! My child is miserable, crying all day at nursery. She is now frightened to go to sleep because of the noise.

Today I have come home to find my front door covered in hundreds of stickers. One with a symbol on it that says "adigas" over my door number, the rest of the door is covered from top to bottom.

My child's bedroom is right next to the hallway, we cannot swap the bedrooms around as the box room is too small to even fit a full length bed in there.

It's taking all of my willpower to stop myself from banging on my neighbours door and telling them to shut the fuck up! Would it be unreasonable for me to swear at her? And what the hell do I do about my child getting some sleep?!?!?

I'm dreading it when I have to do nights. I could cry at the thought!

The vandalism is terrible...but OP, expecting people to be quiet at 6.00pm is unreasonable.

That's a VERY early bedtime. 7.30 is normal at this age.

It's tough for me to be objective on a thread like this,because I've had to put up with this shit for a year - and the family creating the disturbances have two kids aged 4 (my DS's age) and six.

My son goes to bed at eight. I'm not expecting silence the minute after he puts his head down. What I would like is a little respect, and not have to listen to drum & bass, screaming arguments, door slamming and (same age child as mine) shouting and swearing until two in the morning.

I've asked politely them politely to keep an eye on the music volume (which, to be fair, they responded to equally politely - and then ignored). I've spoken to my landlord, who advised me to call the police. Yeah, cos I really want to be that neighbour. I've tried white noise, a fan in the bedroom - and it still goes on. The only thing that seems to work (bizarrely) is blasting Queen from my stereo - not exactly a fail-safe method, as, while it shuts them up, it also wakes DS, but they sure do hate Queen!

No solutions, OP - but if you come up with one, PM me!

Why do you keep referring to your daughter as 'the child'?. I also think a 6 pm bedtime is too early. Although your neighbours sound inconsiderate, it isn't their fault you choose to put your kid to bed so early.

I think living in flats comes with this problem. I know my front door is on one of those fire hinges so it does quite often bang if I don't ease it closed. The PP suggestion of letting her sleep in your bed and transitioning seems good? Unless they are literally screaming at each other their noise is probably considered normal until later at night. I wouldn't waste police time wit stickers either. Maybe just try and appeal to the grandma but 13 year olds can be unruly

6pm doesn't sound like that early a bedtime for a 4 yr old. My oldest DC is 5, and while he's not in bed by 6pm, we've usually working through our bedtime routine by then. He needs lots of sleep in order to cope at school. OP's child may also need lots of sleep.

Unfortunately though, 6pm isn't all that late for older children and adults, and as such, there's still going to be noise from most neighbours at that time of day. Especially living in close quarters like flats.

I don't think OP wants complete silence, she wants her neighbour to be considerate to everyone living in the flats. Yes she is being annoyed more as she is living next door.

There is no reason for the door to be slammed every 5 minutes, other then on purpose. The child next door is a teenager old enough to understand you scream/shout in the hallways.

There is nothing wrong with OP child to go to bed at 6 pm if she getting up early, and the moment her child sounds exhausted.

Contact the management company for the flats.