To not want to post anything sensitive on here anymore incase my post features on mumsnet Facebook??

[Namechanger9999]

I used to post all sorts on here, I currently need advice on a very sensitive subject but feel unable to post it in case it appears on Facebook. I've seen others posts appear on mumsnet Facebook on my news feed and feel that maybe the poster didn't want their private life publicised on facebook? I would hate that. AIBU?

How sensitive are we talking?

I must admit I rarely look at the FB page.

I imagine Mumsnet are quite selective what they put on FB though.

Can't imagine them putting a sensitive relationship thread on there.

They tend to go for the silly, jokey ones, don't they?

Although I think a google search is a bit different as I may be looking for that advice where as on Facebook it just appears to joe bloggs

Ahh good point user I keep forgetting about that.

Mind you, Off the beaten track can still be read by journalists and researchers who are MN members.

The most recent threads promoted on MN FB:

Eating breakfast in the office is annoying

Food gifts are for me, not for sharing

Shit childhood Halloween costumes

Chinese lanterns should be banned

Self settling - is it possible?

What's the first thing you said today?

Hipster cafe stories

Which of those is "someone's sensitive post"? They are hardly "please help my DH is abusive" or "my child is terminally ill" or "I have a very specific problem with my MIL" are they?

I totally see your way of thinking but unfortunately,you probably should open your eyes a little more.
Nothing on here is safe, anonymous etc. Some of us have found that out the hard way I'm afraid.

If you really need help with something and think MN is the best place to get that help, Name change and change all identifying details, change the situation a little bit too. You have to be careful mind,
It can be hard to do that though as if you slip up and let out a bit of real situation people start calling troll... I think the best thing you can do is remember that mumsnet isn't small anymore, the internet is a bloody huge place and probably no longer (If it ever was) a safe place to discuss personal situations.

The thing is, you can't post sensitive things hoping it will only be seen by mums unless it goes on Facebook, because there are loads of us on here who aren't mums.

Trills

Next you'll be telling us there are men here too

In anticipation - why would non-mums not be here?

Of the threads recently posted to MN Facebook, only one (self settling) is specifically related to parenting, the others are just interesting things to chat about.
(apart from Chinese Lanterns, that's boring)

The obvious solution would be to name change before posting anything that's particularly sensitive and identifying.

Sshhh Worra I was going to mention men but I thought it would descend into chaos! Why would we even want to read a site for mums

You can request that your thread doesn't end up on MN's FB page by sending them an email. I did this and then they also advised me about the OTBT section.
Just to give further peace of mind you can ask to have the thread deleted to protect your privacy. So if you post something sensitive and then regret it afterwards, speak to mnhq about it.
This is also why the namechange function exists. When people say it should be removed in order to deter trolls, I always think to myself no it shouldn't. Because then that will penalise the people who need it and use it properly.

Because if you're a mum, surely all you talk about is your children and nothing else, so what else would there be to talk about on this mum forum?

And it would ruin the Halloween namechange competition.

In other news, I've been trying to work out for ages what OTBT stands for. I think I'd settled on 'On The Brown Toe' like some sort of cryptic 'On The Down Low' title that journalists wouldn't figure out.

OTBT stands for 'Oh Those Bloody Trolls'.

True fact.

I would be more concerned about it appearing in a newspaper or the Wright stuff to be honest your friends and family might recognise you more than facebook. if they havnt liked mumsnet then they wouldnt see it. Mumsnet is a good place to ask advice but it is not a safe place.

Don't get OTBT and ODFOD mixed up

If it's too sensitive to be public, don't stick it on the internet. I hate the Fail but it's not unethical to put a story that's in the public domain into another place that's in the public domain.

That's the thing.

I keep reading "Oh it's lazy journalism".

It's not, it's modern journalism. With so much information on the internet, they're hardly likely to grab a clipboard and take to the shopping centers.

"at least on mumsnet it's specifically a forum for mums"

Nope. It's a wide-open site that anyone can join, and nobody is checking if a poster is Quite What She Seems.

Perhaps I really am Steve Patterson, the greasy old fat guy from Facilities Management?

Havent been on here in a while, so stupid question whats Fail?