AIBU- overheard phone conversation

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Yesterday dd was on phone to her stepmmum discussing school disco when sm asked her if she would be 'allowed' to walk the 2 streets home alone after (finishing time 11.45pm). Dd is a small for her age 12 year old. It didn't happen but I'm still annoyed that it was thought appropriate. What do others think?

Woah! You appear to be the person who can't deal with people posting something which disagrees with them.

I didn't say she shouldn't have posted it. I just said that if she was bothered enough to post about it then clearly it was a big deal to her and it was a pretty minor event to worry about. I did miss that the daughter had said that her Mum said no, but that doesn't change the fact that they did listen to her.

I feel a bit sorry for everybody involved here. I feel sorry for the daughter being caught in the middle, the ex and SM for being criticised for just thinking about something and the OP because she seems to be worrying about things unnecessarily.

Incidentally Nicki, I've had a look through some of your old threads and you're very much pot/kettle.

Telling people to cry you a river and going for the jugular if they disagree with you about a film's message, calling people arseholes and judging parents who send their kids to boarding school really unpleasantly. And that's just for starters. So, you know, log in your own eye and all that.

You've just reposted your last post but with a few tweaks. Dud you realise? You've spent quite some time working on that haven't you?

Not engaging with you Nicki. I think it's pretty hypocritical to try and pull rank saying that you've been on here longer so it's fine for you to do things that you complain about others doing. And TBH, if you're going to complain about my posting style I think it's fair enough for me to have a quick google of yours.

Incidentally it's clear that you've had a very hard time and unpleasant experience with your own ex. But you seem to make a habit of transferring your own problems onto other people's. As far as we know the ex did as the OP asked and he's not an abusive drunk. So answering as if he is probably doesn't help the OP's situation.

I thought it hadn't posted but had copied and so pasted and just changed a few bits. You do realise you're not really making your point very effectively don't you? Complaining about other people not being by making personal attacks. I didn't make a personal attack. I gave my opinion on the situation. And you do seem to make a habit of picking fights with anybody who disagrees with you. Probably so you can get a rise and press the report button. So I really am disengaging with you.

I think I am doing alright actually. But I too am happy to leave it there and not keep poking the Bear

Have a good evening Bill. Keep warm!

"The SM shouldn't be left making important decisions"

She wasn't though, was she?

She asked her step daughter if she would be allowed to do something, daughter asked Op, Op said no.

We don't know what the father's stance was on this at all-may have been a flat no from the off, may have been a possibly if there were others.

there are at least half a dozen meanings to the question "would you be allowed to walk home ?"

Ranging from "bloody hell, you're not saying your DM would let you walk home at that time, are you? " to "well I haven't got kids myself so not sure if that would be considered a sensible idea, but what the heck?" And a whole load of other interpretations in between.

Seems pretty silly to make a meal out of it given that you don't know exactly what was meant.

Evening all
Bit of peace and love

YANBU - my DD is twice the age of yours, and when she is staying on my watch I wouldn't allow her to walk home alone at the moment. There have been two cases of rape and a number of reported sex attacks very close to where we live... I used to walk home on my own in the early hours and never felt threatened, but wouldn't do it now.

Sorry! I misread the op. My friend's Dc had her first teenage disco last night too. It was over at around 12 (not in uk). There were no buses so the parents collected (rural location) so no walking home.