My daughter slapped a work colleague on the shop floor!

[plastique]

My daughter is distraught, she slapped a colleague at work whilst having playful banter (though they did cross the line), but it was a bit hard, left a mark for 10 mins and colleague is not happy...what should she do??

[Lorelei76]

Ah, so you don't know for sure
You said as part of banter
If he said something really awful then that might help her, also he was pushing and shoving her I.e. More violent actions?

[littlepeas]

OP - that is what I thought may have happened. I think that muddies the waters considerably. Poor girl (assuming she is very young?). I think they should both be disciplined tbh.

[HeldTogetherByGafferTape]

Lobar = lost

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

He said something unacceptable I assume lost all professionalism and went to do a playful slap but it was hard enough to mark

Do you assume does not mean 'you know'

[Firsttimer82]

Don't resign... This is a learning curve for your daughter. Apologise to the bloke, then don't bring it up again. If he was that rude then he won't report it. I'm sure its his pride that is hurt. What did he say to her. I got into a banter fight at work with a bloke and we wrestled a bit. Now we are married.

[LumpySpacedPrincess]

So he acted like an asshole? What. Actually. Happened. Question. Mark.

[PaulDacresConscience]

OK, it sounds as if there is at least some context to it. However it also sounds as if she has taken it too far.

She needs to apologise profusely and in her shoes I would resign and find another job somewhere else, starting with a clean slate. She also needs to learn a lesson about boundaries and professionalism as well.

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

*so

[DearTeddyRobinson]

What would you expect her colleague to do, had he been the one to slap her hard enough to leave a mark? There's your answer.

[madein1995]

Apologise profusely. Hope to hell shes not sacked. Woyld say resign but could be hard to grt jsa if she does so. Start looking for another job.

[MummyToOneGirl]

Was it in a factory? You often find a certain amount of horseplay in factories. I suspect your daughter may face a disciplinary hearing but hopefully will get a warning rather than the sack. Factory work can be very tough and it's hard to get good, motivated staff, so if she's a good worker and this is a one off, they would be foolish to sack her.

[plastique]

It's her first job ever and since graduating, and it does sound very friendly and a fun working environment having listened to her daily stories. She's apologised via messenger to the gut with no reply and the lack of response is worrying...

[user1477282676]

Mummy OP says it was in a shop. He won't complain OP...he knows he was in the wrong and you need to tell her this.

She shouldn't have slapped him no....but he's been harassing her.

[Creampastry]

She should be worried about getting a visit from the police

[PigletWasPoohsFriend]

She shouldn't have slapped him no....but he's been harassing her.

There is nothing from the OP that says he was 'harassing her'

[Stillunexpected]

She shouldn't have slapped him no....but he's been harassing her - how on earth have you picked that up from the OP's few posts?!

She has crossed the line OP, it may be a fun working environment but if this is her first job since university then it sounds as if she is not making the transition from what may be acceptable at university among friends to what is expected in the working environment. And this happened on a shop floor??? Were there customers around - or likely to be around?

Why has your daughter apologised by messenger? I hope she apologised profusely in person when the incident happened.

[HarryPottersMagicWand]

Why won't you answer the many posts asking what he actually said to her?

[Eevee77]

"Lack of response is worrying"

Really!? She slapped him, hard, across the face! A lack of response to a messaged apology (surely she she be apologising to his face?) is the understandable. I don't think I'd respond either.

And I don't really think it matters what he said. You can't hit someone, full stop. Especially not at work, wow.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

user1477282676

but he's been harassing her.

That is a bit of a leap.

[Amandahugandkisses]

What did he say?

[dontbesillyhenry]

Isn't it bizzare how the tone has changed now people know the colleague is male? 'Oh well he must have said something' double standards are alive and well I see

[Costacoffeeplease]

If his behaviour has been harassing then she should have reported him before now, unfortunately it looks as though she's put herself in the wrong. Hopefully she'll learn a valuable lesson

[Lunar1]

Does it matter what he said, she had the option to walk away from him rather than hit him.

[bumsexatthebingo]

If he's been pushing and shoving her then I do't think it's a leap to say he's been harassing her??? Is it a senior colleague op? I agree with others that they both need a talking to about how to behave in the workplace.