To consider calling 101 next time...

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Don't know if I should have gone to feminist chat with this but I'm feeling brave and it's good to hear other points of view. Every day I spend two hours commuting each way up a busy stretch of motorway during rush hour. The journey is annoying enough in itself as it's less than an hour when traffic is less. Nowapart from the fact that for two hours I have to concentrate hard on driving due to random braking, unnecessary lanes switches with no warning etc etc. My problem is that at least once a journey, a lorry driver or van driver will try and catch my attention, speeding up, slowing down, sometimes making lewd gestures, flashing, honking and generally being dangerous and affecting my own, theirs and other drivers ability to concentrate fully. I feel like there's nothing I can do as even if they are in a branded vehicle, I can't write it down and by the time I get home I've minimised it and usually forgotten the company. So my AIBU is - AIBU to want to call 101 with this complaint? It is dangerous but I swerve between not wanting to 'make a fuss' or waste police time, and thinking that people should understand how intimidating and dangerous their actions are. N.b. This is not a stealth boast, I like to think I'm not completely hideous but I'm no oil painting

You're driving along slowly in heavy traffic and vehicles at the side of you are going slowly, then speeding up, then slowing down. Sometimes the drivers make eye contact and smile at you.

This sounds like every traffic jam with stop start traffic that I have ever been in. This is how traffic jams work. You speed up when the cars in front move and slow down when they do.

I don't think it is your non-hideousness OP. Its just traffic.

your fog lights are on.

I don't know why you are getting a hard time. I can imagine this scenario. There are a lot of men in cars / vans / lorries who think they can intimidate women / act how they like.

Like folk say, a dash cam is the way to go.

Well I am sorry I've wasted everyone's time with my inability to realise when someone is just calling me a wanker when I think they are giving me attention this must explain why dating has always been such a nightmare for me will work on my apparent middle lane hogging, fog lights, pop the headlights back in my car and perhaps I'll consider a body language course. But I might start with the dash cam, which will answer most of the questions raised and give evidence

OP You're getting a bit arsey when people are giving the most likely scenarios and explanation. No one else seems to experience the kind of reaction by lorry or van drivers as you described. They can't even properly see you so it's unlikely it's down to your appearance. Hence it is not unreasonable to assume it is something about the way you drive that pisses off a disproportionately number of professional drivers. Many of us did agree about getting a dash cam. However, that will show the behaviour and reaction of other drivers and not so much what it is you do. I'd take an advanced driving refresher if I had that sort of issue, just to check you're au fait with motorway etiquette.

I'm really not getting arsey, it was meant to be lighthearted, clearly it looks rude and I apologise for that. Both van and lorry drivers i would imagine can see me in the situations I have clearly poorly described as I can see their faces clearly. Perhaps not very big lorries. I actually posted as I have spoken to others who experience this and expected others to too, as a couple of posters have said they have and was hoping for advice on how to deal with it. The dash cam I am going to get because it's a really good suggestion

Sorry, I'm on my phone, not the most coherent post

Fair enough. 'Tis the problem with just going by messages, you can't always gauge the intent. A mate did one of those advanced driving courses because she felt stressed on motorways. Driving school doesn't really tend to cover that aspect of driving very much. She was really astounded how little she was aware of the kind of issues lorries and bus drivers faced and how actually she could be endangering herself by ignoring basic rules regarding lanes etc. That's why I mentioned it. But the dash cam footage might help. And you have something to send to any companies if you want to complain about their drivers.

And I do appreciate people taking time to make suggestions, however some may come across. I like to think I'm quite 'lorry aware' as my BIL is an hgv driver and would often give me advice when I was a new terrible driver about what is safe/annoying/driver visibility and it's really stuck, but I'm not saying I am by any means an expert based on advice I received longer ago than I care to remember although it does continue whoever is driving, mostly about other road users anyway, thanks all, dash cam it is, I think they sound great