To take my 3 year old out of 'term time' with his Childminder

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My Son has just turned 3 (i4 days ago). He gets 15 free hours as I'm currently on income support. I live a very isolated live, away from my Family. I moved here for my now ex as he is from here. His Family see our Son every week.

My Parents do not drive and are carers for my Autistic nephew who they have every weekend (Brother has serious disabilities himself and is a Single Parent). I try and go down to visit my Parents when it's convenient and stay for two weeks. I love it, My Son absolutely loves it. He goes to the seaside, he plays with his Cousins, he never wants to go home.

I chose a good childminder for my Son who he sees for 15 hours a week. He enjoys it, I wouldn't say he absolutely loves it but he's happy to go and play with the children.

I wasn't able to go to my Parents this half term so I had planned to go in three weeks time but my Son's Dad has said I'm not taking him out of term time with his Childminder. I was like 'what term time'. Now I'm sorry but it's not like he's 4 and in compulsory education! He's only just turned 3!!! The Childminder doesn't ind as she gets paid anyway. He learns more with my Parents than he does with her as he gets so much attention and love.

I don't see any problem in visiting my parents for two weeks with my 3 year old. AIBU?

yesterday - please stop derailing the thread, and go and start your own thread if you want to discuss the ins and outs of Early Education Funding.

OP Of course YANBU, and of course you can take him for a break at your parents during school term time. As you say, he's not even in school yet.

Ops had her question answered - she is NBU - threads always get derailed!

Much better to have a certain number of places available and consider them on an individual basis

Which they generally do, for two-year funding. My DS had severe speech delay, which pre-empted the decision to give him a formal diagnosis of ASD.

Compulsory education actually only starts once the child has turned 5 so your ex is BU.
YANBU at all.
She still gets paid and he doesn't miss out. Your ex is being difficult and hasn't got his facts correct.

Anywaaaaay, OP - nope, not BU. Your ex is being manipulative and controlling.

19Hannah and Yesterday, you are a right pair of Goady Fuckers! All children aged 3 and up get 15 hours a week whether parents are working or not as it benefits the child. You are not contributing anything helpful to the thread so do fuck off.

OP, you are not being unreasonable to take your child out of the childminders. It does sound to be like maybe your partner is a little confused and believes that as the hours are given during term time that attendance is compulsory ? (Which it isn't at this age!)

Whereas your abuse and swearing was so helpful. I do love irony!

I am well aware three year olds get free hours and I am counting the days until my own DDs third birthday (not sadly until next year!) but some children get it aged two.

It isn't being a Goady Fucker to feel the system is unfair and I was very clear I was critical of the system and not the OP.

I'm not going to apologise for diverting the thread because threads always divert!

Op move home.
Especially before child starts school and your ex sounds like a cunt so move and then tell him. Otherwise you'll be stuck there as he wont let you move and may go to court to stop you.

Unfortunately I can't move. Otherwise I would have years ago. It's hard without the funds to have the freedom to move where I like. I am planning to to move eventually.

Just to say though, eventhough he's a bit of an idiot towards me, my ex is the most incredible Dad to our Son, and my Son absolutely adores him. So I would never try and limit contact.