Aibu? Friend has flipped out on me.

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I actually do feel sorry for hI'm, but I'm stuck in the middle here so aibu to feel it's unfair that I'm getting the abuse?
Posted on here a few times about how dh hasn't worked for a while and it's a strain on us financially. I tell my friend and he says he's got places going at his work, it's not well paid and crap hours but it's a job. Before I even get a chance to run it past dh he's arranged an interview for him.
Now he has terrible anxiety when it comes to phone work. I knew he wouldn't like it, but he went to the interview anyway. Or, he tried. He got hopelessly lost, and eventually made his way home two hours late.
Friend got an earful from his manager and now he's fuming with us, saying it's the last time he'll ever help. I did try explaining to him that the job probably won't be suitable (it also clashes with my job hours) but we've felt so pressured into it and it made dh anxiety worse. I can understand his frustration and I've promised never to moan about dh not working again but tbh I don't know if he will ever talk to me again. I feel so torn in frustration about dh, wishing he would just do it, but I'm also upset that df has flipped out on me.
Aibu? I know you guys will tell me straight.

I am soft with him I'll admit, but he's quite scary when he's not happy. Sometimes it's easier to placate.

Does he get "scary" when it's suggested he get a job?

Christ we'll be at 'LTB' soon.

Your husband isn't BU, he has anxiety, it's clear that he intended to go along, feeling the pressure to make you and your friend happy, then anxiety clearly got the better of him. Yeah he could have called to cancel but he was probably still trying to work up the courage to go in at about one minute before the interview was due to start. The amount of people on here claiming to have anxiety who can't work that out is beyond me.

Your friend is BU. He should have agreed the interview with your husband, not you. He's dropped a bollock and he's trying to make your feel guilty about it. His problem.

Anxiety isn't an excuse for bad or lazy behaviour. Is he even trying to get it sorted?

My husband is prone to bouts of work related anxiety, he works a very responsible and difficult job, but he has never used it as an excuse for anything and gets himself down to the GP whenever he feels about coming on.

The only good thing about this really is that he knows now that he has to get some sort of job. Funnily enough, faced with the prospect of a job he will hate, an interview for a role something more suitable has come up

So, reading between the lines, your DF booked the interview himself because he thinks your DH is perfectly capable of work, but wouldn't get off his arse to apply. And it sounds like he was right.

NB: I think there are lots of people with anxiety who are not well enough to work and who would be made much worse by someone trying to push them into a job. It just doesn't sound as if the OP"s DH is one of them.

I think both wbu, though i do agree with some of littlechip as i suffer with extreme anxiety, however i think op's husband should still have rang to cancel.
I could also believe the getting lost as i have no idea how to read maps or directions! I can get lost in places i've lived in for years. (Even worse now i've moved!).
My iphone also loses power quite easily as the battery is crap.
I think the friend was bu to have just arranged the interview without op even getting a chance to check, however once it was set if the husband couldn't go for whatever reason then he should have cancelled.
I understand the friend being upset as he's probably very embarrassed.
I think it was a nice think rhe friend did.
I don't understand the comment about him being 'some friend' just because it's 'crap hours and pay', it's a job

A job that requires three buses????

but he's quite scary when he's not happy. Sometimes it's easier to placate.

This isn't good. At all.