Was she being fake

[crissya]

So I recently joined a new team on a permanent basis. I'm a Lesbian who recently married my Wife. We have two children. For the first few weeks it's all been really professional, and everyone has been reasonably friendly. A few days ago one member of staff who is originally from Africa asked me when my Husband and I got married. I then explained it was my Wife. She looked it utter horror

I understand that not everyone agrees with gay marriage and I actually respect that to an extent, originally coming from a country where it's illegal myself but she then went on quite a rant about how she considers it wrong, especially with children involved. I was surprised she openly voiced that considering it's a liberal, supposedly professional environment to work for but then I realised why when the Boss agreed with her. Bear in mind I work in Government organisation not a private company. They didn't say anything that could get them sacked, but it wasn't very pleasant.

Anyway a young woman, I think she's around 25, interrupted the women mid speech to ask when I got married and whether she could see pictures. So she grabbed a chair and sat looking at my pics from our wedding day and pics of my Daughter. She said they were lovely and my Daughter was absolutely beautiful. She said I'm not allowed not bring in pictures from her Christening because she wants to see them. Every Monday morning since she has asked how my Wife and I are and been really friendly.

I thought it was lovely, and a very effective way of making me feel welcomed, but my Wife thinks she may have been being fake and making fun of me by pretending to like the pictures. She's never took someone the wrong way before and doesn't normally think like that.

AIBU to think she was just being really friendly and dealing with a difficult situation in an effective way?

Plus, I know they got given a warning by a Line Manager so since I never said anything I suspect it was her. What do you think?

I think she sounds lovely and like she very effectively diffused an unpleasant and difficult situation in quite a tactful way.

I don't think she was being fake - I think she was being nice and supportive, and trying to defuse a horrible situation. It's the way I'd handle something like that.

Echo PPs vis your wife. Very odd reaction. As in, super odd.

Touch of the pro-active strategy to diffuse your friendship with the woman that stepped in to defend your relationship and your rights to it?

Has she got form for jealousy?

Why would your wife think that when you were there and she wasn't, and you thought it was nice?

She may have shown more interest than she would have had your other colleague not been such an arse about it. So what? It was a kind and a brave act, and the older I get, the more I value those two qualities over some pigheaded adherence to being "true to yourself" every minute.

Your wife sounds insecure and paranoid.

It sounds as if she was subtly trying to teach your colleagues how to act with people.
She may have over egged it to prove a point but it comes from a friendly place I would think

I agree with the others, your colleague was being friendly and setting a good example to the less enlightened staff.

I agree. She might have faked the level of interest in the photos a bit, just to show them up but she sounds nice ,

Why would your wife think that? It sounds like she was being supportive as you faced homophobia.