To be feeling overwhelmed

[pumpkinpiesforsupper]

I am heavily pregnant, I also have a 1,3 and 4 year old and I just can't keep a show house at all times, I'm so exhausted everyday from this and now I'm at breaking point. Now I'm on ML
I just want to be able to have a PJ day or not have to run around the house cleaning up every toy and hoovering after breakfast lunch and supper. But my landlord just turns up with no notice to do things around the house, I've called my estate agents and they've done nothing to stop it and I just feel so depressed and exhausted at keeping this up.

I was bathing my 1 year old on Friday morning so couldn't leave him to answer the door and when the LL came back he made jokes about me having something to hide. Ahhh I just want to cry

I've never been an anxious person but I'm

Wauden Implying that the LL is a potential paedophile is a bit of a leap and not particularly helpful.

It's not too late to speak to him. What he's doing is totally unacceptable and you do not have to put up with it. Assuming you want to stay in the house, I honestly think you need to get some proper advice from Shelter or the CAB on how to approach it.

Jesus. I would happily pay for compulsory regulation of LLs and letting agents if it prevented these kind of fuckwits from becoming LLs.

A 'friend' who climbs in through the kitchen window when you don't let him in?

Tell him yourself that you need him to give you proper notice. And tell your DP to grow a spine.

OP, you don't just have a LL problem,myou have a dh problem, too. Too late???? No it is NOT too late and you most certainly cannot be 'thrown out' for requesting notice of any essential visits or inspections.

Also you do NOT have to keep your home like a show home. You live there, just carry on. You mustn't damage the fabric of the property but there are no rules about having toys on the floor or dishes in the sink.

As I said, send a copy of the tenancy agreement with the relevant section highlighted and pleasantly request proper notice in future. He does sound a creep. Climbing through the window is seriously fucked up.

I spoke to DH, and he said it's too late to complain now that would just get us thrown out as LL classes himself as a friend

This is unacceptable. So your DH prioritises the house over your (very justified) feelings. YANBU to be feeling overwhelmed.

Your LL is taking the piss and you've been left to deal with it on your own.

Perhaps use the window episode as a reason to ask for further security measures such as window opening restrictors. Not safe if someone can get in that easily.

whatever has happened or you've allowed up till now doesn't matter. you're not comfortable with it, and from now on you want him to make an appointment at a convenient time with at least 24 hours notice. you have the right to quiet enjoyment of the property, as per the law, which you are paying him for.

if you don't feel you can say it to his face, then do it by text or email.

Why does he do your gardening?

If you don't feel comfortable going down the legal route of refusing him entry for fear of losing your tenency, could you at least stop cleaning and tidying and feeling the need to make it look like a show home?