To say no to MIL who we haven't seen since April!

[pumpkinpiesforsupper]

Just to get some reassurance that I'm not just being a hormonal cow

The last time MIL made the effort to come over, see us, or let her visit her was April the 27th.

We try every week to make contact, however she's always busy with work/other grandchild/tired. Anyway, we carry on asking as we really would like to see her and for her to be an active part of our 3DCs lives.

I am 30 weeks pregnant with number 4, she text today saying ' DH said you'd let me come to a scan, you haven't invited me to any' as I had a growth scan this afternoon, afterwards she text 'send pic then' and I haven't.

To be honest I want to reply saying something about how I thought she wouldn't have the time for growth scans considering she can't see us or the children for over 25 weeks...

That was really rude moreslack...how is that relevant in the slightest?

Black hole her. And stop chasing her. She is not into you. Do not respond do not contact. Leave her to your DH.

Pumpkin if your DH hasn't said that & it's a regular thing for her to say then I can completely understand your frustrations. It sounds like a rather complex and frustrating situation.

I'd send the photo (if there is one) to keep the peace but that's all. It certainly needs addressing that she won't be attending any appointments with you.

I'd say your husband needs to establish the boundaries though - from experience if that comes from you, you'll just get flamed.

Why should OPSEDN a lying manipulator a picture of her womb?
It's very easy to keep the peace. Block her and ignore her. Extremely peaceful

send pic then

Rude cow.
Fuck her...

Agree with PP. abs no fecking way I'd take my MiL to a scan. It's private & its medical. What if some sort of concern was raised (I'm sure it won't be x).

Deliberately misunderstand and send a picture of your existing children.

OP tell her it was a medical scan, not the cinema.

How about 'sorry, can't do baby scan but I'm having my gall bladder scanned once I've had the baby, fancy coming along to that?'. When she starts blustering remind her they're both medical proceedures

I would just be up front if I were you and just say something in a kind way like I'd rather you spent time with the children as they'd really appreciate it though it's so kind of you to show interest in the new baby.
Clear communication is often best IMO