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Do I look like Delia Smith?

29 replies

unimagmative13 · 17/10/2016 23:31

So I'm having a lovely time on maternity leave. DS is chilled and naps during the day. ( sometimes with much effort ).

DH has increased his expectation since I've been at home. I think it's my fault I've made it look easy.
He's been provided with a cooked meal everynight, all housework done.

His requests are starting to grate on me. Can I make pies from scratch, frequent roast dinner, baked goods, elaborate puddings. After all 'what do I do all day' drink tea and watch Jeremy Kyle
Tonight he asked me if I could provide something to dip his ketchup in like a pot.
Have I missed a trick? Are we meant to look like we can't cope so I don't get this shit.

Next thing is since when is everything 'my job' I've never seen a new mum job description and have never agreed to my 'jobs' which seems to be everything - except 'bring home the money'

AIBU to think I'm not Delia Smith or wonder women. --

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WhoKnewSeamus · 17/10/2016 23:34

Sad I was expecting a pic

WorraLiberty · 17/10/2016 23:35

How did he respond when you put him straight?

I have no idea whether you look like Delia, but I honestly thought there was going to be a pic attached! Grin Cake

Bringmewineandcake · 17/10/2016 23:35

Me too Seamus Grin

Ginkypig · 17/10/2016 23:37

I also expected a picture disappointed

He's being an arse. That is all!

JustSpeakSense · 17/10/2016 23:39

whoknew

Me too....I was expecting a Delia Smith look alike 

Do I look like Delia Smith?
gleam · 17/10/2016 23:39

Get him a cookery book for Christmas, as he's so keen.

unimagmative13 · 17/10/2016 23:39

Fuck I actually think I do

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PickAChew · 17/10/2016 23:39

He wanted a pot for his ketchup?

i would have tediously explained that most people put their kitchup at te side of their plate, but, if he were to look in the cupboard with his own eyes, he might find a suitable small bowl, ramekin, egg cup, or maybe a great big bowl of STFU.

unimagmative13 · 17/10/2016 23:40

My comment was 'normal people just use a bowl for dipping'

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LetitiaCropleysCookbook · 17/10/2016 23:40

So was I. I was expecting a simpering smile and a dark brown bob!

like this

gleam · 17/10/2016 23:40

Is Delia doing a half Rex there?

unimagmative13 · 17/10/2016 23:44

That was my face when DH asked for something to dip sauce in.

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tibbawyrots · 17/10/2016 23:44

Think I would ease up on the cooked meals and all housework done as you're creating a rod for your own back.

Maternity leave is for you to recover from the birth and learn how to look after the newest member of your family, not to become a slave to housework!

raspberrysuicide · 17/10/2016 23:49

That was my ex husbands attitude too. It's why he's now an ex!

girlwithamoonandstaronherhead · 17/10/2016 23:53

Oh I was looking forward to the picture! And when the first line of ur post said mat leave I thought you must be quite unfortunate to look like Delia smith when you are still child bearing age.
As for your actual issue, you just have made yourself look far too capable. PJs and takeaway tomorrow.

BennyTheBall · 17/10/2016 23:59

I was expecting a pic too!

Fwiw I did nothing on maternity leave apart from look after my baby. Cook dinner? Sod that Grin

PerspicaciaTick · 18/10/2016 00:12

He's trying it on...pushing to see how many unreasonable demands he can get away with. Dealing with him will give you excellent practice for dealing with the demands of toddler (although he will be left looking distinctly amateurish).

You need to work on the "raised eyebrow" icy glare and your ability to completely ignore him.

Memoires · 18/10/2016 00:18

Laugh.

Memoires · 18/10/2016 00:18

Bitterly.

whippetwoman · 18/10/2016 00:19

I really love Delia Smith.

RubbishMantra · 18/10/2016 00:30

Was he this entitled before you had your baby?

Next time he starts talking about pies made from scratch and elaborate puddings, agree with him, "Yes dh, sounds delicious, I'll look forward to you making it for us at the weekend!" And present him with a Delia cook book.

RortyCrankle · 18/10/2016 00:33

To hell with that. - I would laugh in his face and he would be getting beans on toast every day for the rest of the week and lucky to get that.

I hope you told him where to go with his 'suggestions'?

oldlaundbooth · 18/10/2016 00:51

Cold crust or short?

unimagmative13 · 18/10/2016 07:50

I need to stop watching GBBO eagerly too. Nadia whatshereface hasn't helped us mums with her marshmallow fondant.

Beans on toast is not a dinner for a working man Hmm
I have upped my game a little with weaning so more homemade stuff but at least I can shove DS a dry rice cake for lunch and he'd be happy.

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Paulat2112 · 18/10/2016 07:56

I'm another that was really looking forward to a picture 😂 What did you do when you were at work? Was it a 50/50 split?

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