Would you leave a 3 yr old asleep inside whilst you popped out to the shop for 5mins

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Would you do it? She sodding well fell asleep during Peter Rabbit (shes not being unreasonable, it's the same fucking storyline in every episode. A fox or a badger chase them) and I don't want to risk waking her up to go to the shops but I have to get something.^^ It's just us here and I can't see the harm if I'm back in five. Am I being stupid even thinking about it or....

The way I have alway thought is that could you confidently say to social service you would do it.

If the answer is no then there is your answer.

To people saying only in a cot the thought of a three year old child waking up to a silent house, even for '5 minutes' actually makes me feel sick to the stomoch.

No way. They can wake up for a nap at any moment and she'd be so upset to be alone or worse, do something dangerous.

I would hold off on the shop visit until she wakes, or at 3 years old if I was desperate I'd just wake her up and take her.

My son is 10 my daughter is 7 and I would hate for them to wake up in a house alone. No doubt in time they will but for now they will always have someone who will be at home when they wake up.

My parents were fairly strict about rules and protective so was shocked that apparently I was left asleep in my cot every afternoon while my mother picked my sister up from school. I would have been 3 at the time. I wouldn't do it dc never slept anyway but they didn't think anything of it.

No! No! and No! Anything could happen!!!

Statistically accidents are more likely to happen when the child is at home with adult but awake and not in the same room. I don't think the op is mad in the least, the craziest thing she did was asking mums net for their opinion! The right place to go to get judged.

I would if it's only five minutes on foot.

I think it was done back in the day, just not by everyone. When I was little my mum worked evenings, my dad would go out to pick her up at 10/11pm and leave us kids asleep upstairs with no adult in the house. We were aged around 9yo, 7yo and 2yo.

Even younger than that, when I was 3yo and next sibling was 1yo, we'd go on holiday to Butlins at Filey and my parents - along with lots of other parents there - would leave us in the apartment when they went out at night because there were no kids allowed in the venues. Butlins even had a 'chalet watch' scheme, you had to leave a card at guest service saying your room number, how many kids inside, and a list of which venues you'd be at and roughly what times. Staff would patrol the areas outside the chalets and if they heard a child awake they'd radio guest services so they could alert the relevant venue. There was a light board in each venue with all the room numbers on it, if your number lit up then you had to go back to check on your child. This was in the 80s, not sure when the scheme ended up could you imagine it nowadays!? It definitely wouldn't be acceptable!

Hmm, I'm definitely a bad parent. I didn't leave her in the end last night but have done before. Without consulting mn before.

My biggest fear has been not being able to get back in for any reason. How would you explain that away....

I won't risk it again.

It wouldn't even cross my mind to consider this

If you have that fear then why would you do it??

Statistically accidents are more likely to happen when the child is at home with adult but awake and not in the same room.

I'd put good money on accidents being even more likely to happen if an awake 3 yr old is home alone with no adult present at all.

At least an adult in another room in the house might be alerted to the possibility of the toddler doing something risky by noises the toddler makes, or stick their head through the door to check on toddler before a potential accident in progress goes from bad to worse.

The film "Ladybird,Ladybird" is based on a true story. I knew the real life mother in the film. She went to get some ciggies. The house burnt down. Nuff said.

You could get run over. Much better that you take her with you and she gets run over too, or has the trauma of seeing her DM get run over, which will probably scar her for life .

I remember when I was a child we used to go to Butlins and everyone except the real tinies would go to the evening entertainment, leaving the babies asleep in the chalets, under the 'care' of the baby listening service. A board at the side of the theatre used to flash up with 'baby crying in chalet number 478', which could easily be 10-15 minutes dash away.

Oh, I see Tarla has already posted the Butlins anecdote.

I was left alone (aged 3-4) sleeping while my mum popped to the shop. My mum knew I was cautious and unlikely to have an accident.

But I still remember clearly to this day the feeling of waking up to an empty house and being utterly terrified. She found me crying by the front door when she came back.

Even if accidents are very unlikely, its very upsetting for a young child to wake to an empty house.

No I wouldn't op you can't get anywhere in 5 mins so you would be gone for longer than that.

I thought the film ladybird ladybird was about a woman in and out of disfunctional abusive relationships who leaves her kids alone one night to sing in a club and that's when they get injured by fire? Hardly a fair comparison

Haha, glad I wasn't the only child left in the chalet barbara

I'd do it. And I'm a social worker.

I also leave them in the car at the petrol station if I need something from the garage shop.

user1476781406 aren't social workers always telling us about hideous workloads and being snowed under? Maybe mumsnet isn't the best use of your time

Ask the mc canns about leaving children while you do somthing quickly 😳😱

Ive seen a couple of claims by 'social workers' on MN advocating this sort of thing. I find it extremely hard to believe they'd ever condone it. And they almost always have 'User12345679' or whatever as their NN. Irresponsible at best, downright dangerous at worst.