Ex and Halloween costume

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I was looking to get LO(20 months) a chucky costume for Halloween this year. It is my turn to have him for Halloween as ex had him last year. Last year we both went shopping for his costume together and got him a lion costume. Ex is insistent that I was the only one to decide on the costume and he had no say. Tbh I don't remember the day very well so that could be the case but ex has form for exaggerating and "remembering" situations differently to suit his cause.

My aibu is once I mentioned my costume plans to ex he immediately put his foot down and insisted I can't dress him as chucky as children should only be cute on Halloween and not creepy or scary. I pointed out if it was his Halloween he could dress him in whatever he liked and I also said his reasoning was ridiculous as its a good costume idea and there's no specific "rules" as to how toddlers should be dressed on Halloween. I wouldn't mind so much if he'd be around all day but he won't even see him in his costume chucky or otherwise.
Who's being unreasonable?

Why the fucking hell can't people rtft? It's infuriating.

I don't like the Chucky idea either. Bad taste for a little toddler. My daughter has been a pumpkin the last two years and now she's grown out if that she'll be a cat this year I think. Classic Halloween stuff without being scary and weird!

I quite like the Chucky idea for a baby and had no idea and still not sure the James Bulger reference there

Might do that for ds myself

I think the OP did mention fairly early on about being a younger mum, hence not knowing about the Bulger case.

94?! Jeez I'm old!

I had no idea of the Chucky connection with the Jamie Bulger case and I'm in my 30s.

I was born in 88 too. I've just googled it so now I know but I've never seen Chucky in the first place and I would never have made that connection

I was going to go against the grain and say I thought it was a fun idea. Although I also didn't know about the James Bulger connection.
I love scary Halloween although haven't gone full on scary with my dd3 yet. She's been a skeleton, witch, black swan and this year a 'calavera lady'. This year and last she chose herself while we wandered round fancy dress shops, she hasn't actually watched the black swan, just liked the dress and make up!

87 and I had no idea about the James Bulger connection.

I say go for it OP, in fact it is what I'm dressing my toddler up as. Purely because she has a crazy headful of red hair! And I figure that from next year I'll be probably be annoyed for princess dresses every year, so this year I'm deciding. She has dungarees and red shoes, just need to get the stripey top and stick her hair all up.

Oh and last year she was a pumpkin. Like almost every other baby in her toddler group party. She doesn't even have a party to go to this year, she's dressing up just to go visit her grandparents, aunts and uncles etc.
So no chance of scaring other children, as she is the only one in our family :)

I was 10 in 1993 and I remember the teacher in school discussing what happened with us (obviously in a child friendly way) because we were the same age. It was a massive deal when it happened because children had never been heard to commit a crime like this before. It was very scary. I recall the Chucky film being banned back then because the murderers had copied the film but I didn't know the full horrific details until a few years ago when I googled it.
I wouldn't expect children younger than 10 back in 1993 to remember it.

I think that the problem here is not different taste in dress-up for toddlers between OP and her XP.

It's that she feels the need to run this sort of thing past him in the first place.

scarevola it's not that I feel the need to run it by him,it was said in passing as we were chatting at the handover. I used to feel the need but have gotten a lot stronger in recent months regards him.

I'm sorry but I agree with your ex. Ridiculous and horrible idea.

Nothing like a bunch of mothers to get together and make someone question their choice for their child!.... just because its not your choice doesn't mean your the sounding boards for humanity.... or whats right!

Vampires.... eat blood and kill people,
Frankenstein..... was a person made of chopped up bits,
Witches.... evil child killers in most fairy tales,
Skeletons.... dead people walking,
Ghosts..... are dead people frigetening you,
Devils with horns.... does it really need explaining?
dragons breathe fire and kill hoards of villagers and towns.
Monster High, Monsters Inc.... scary and designed to frighten in the beginning....
Pumkins designed to ward off evil....

so im sorry, but Halloween isn't about being cute... if your going to dress your child up for Halloween then you are essentially dressing them up as something evil or morbid.... no matter how cute you all make it... so unless your not going to dress them up at all...its hypocritical....(even as a cute little pumpkin) just because there is a mild link that "may associate" a 3rd film to a terrible and horrific murder of a poor boy.... if you wanted to Im sure you could link "my little pony" in the same way...

What those boys did to James Bulger was disgusting, vile and inexcusable.... but the amount of links in todays society.... you could link any death to any film out there...

I do think Chucky is a bit wrong for a baby or a toddler. 5 or 6 maybe. When our kids were that age we stuck to things like Pumpkins, Frogs and a Spider one year.