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Ex and Halloween costume

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RottenTomatoes959 · 17/10/2016 11:36

I was looking to get LO(20 months) a chucky costume for Halloween this year. It is my turn to have him for Halloween as ex had him last year. Last year we both went shopping for his costume together and got him a lion costume. Ex is insistent that I was the only one to decide on the costume and he had no say. Tbh I don't remember the day very well so that could be the case but ex has form for exaggerating and "remembering" situations differently to suit his cause.

My aibu is once I mentioned my costume plans to ex he immediately put his foot down and insisted I can't dress him as chucky as children should only be cute on Halloween and not creepy or scary. I pointed out if it was his Halloween he could dress him in whatever he liked and I also said his reasoning was ridiculous as its a good costume idea and there's no specific "rules" as to how toddlers should be dressed on Halloween. I wouldn't mind so much if he'd be around all day but he won't even see him in his costume chucky or otherwise.
Who's being unreasonable?

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ItShouldHaveBeenJessMass · 17/10/2016 12:17

Also, on a practical note , how would a Chucky outfit work? Wouldn't it be just regular baby clothes (dungarees etc) and a ginger wig? Unless DS has a seriously evil bitchy resting face, how will people know who he is supposed to be?!

Starlight2345 · 17/10/2016 12:17

I also agree chucky is not appropriate for a toddler..However I also agree what your DC wears with you is your choice.

TheWoodlander · 17/10/2016 12:18

Yanbu to say you get to choose the Halloween costume.

YABU to dress him as Chucky.

JustHappy3 · 17/10/2016 12:31

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mycatstares · 17/10/2016 12:33

His a baby not a doll. His too young for Halloween.

BuggerMyOldBoots · 17/10/2016 12:35

Yabu. Chucky is horrible. Dress him like a pumpkin ffs

CalleighDoodle · 17/10/2016 12:37

I agree with your ex. Chucky is awful.

CalleighDoodle · 17/10/2016 12:40

I actually find this really disturbing and upsettig that you think this could be an acceptable constume for a child.

SarcasmMode · 17/10/2016 12:45

I think costumes for toddlers is fine if you want to do that but yes I'd say toddlers would probably be more cutesy.

My rule is if you're old enough to watch it you're old enough to dress up as it.

So my 3yo might be a funny ghost made out of sheets as she may see it on a hallowe'en episode of kids to.

A 6 year old might be a dragon a 12 year old might be a wicked witch etc.

I quite like costumes but I'd feel a bit ick-y if saw a young child in a very horror-able costume. Teen sure but not a nearly 2 year old.

If you want it to be still horror themed but not too over the top why not something like a jack o lantern or a cute monster like Elmo/Cookie Monster?

I love horror btw just don't get why you'd dress a child up in something they wouldn't be allowed to watch.

Allthewaves · 17/10/2016 12:51

Dressing any small child as a character from an age 18 horror movie Yabu

Imsickofnamechanging · 17/10/2016 12:54

The mind boggles at anyone thinking it's a 'fun' idea to dress their toddler up to look creepy or better still an evil possessed murderer. But each to their own.

Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 17/10/2016 13:25

I think it's in really poor taste tbh and I say that as someone with quite a sick sense of humour. I've got a 2 year old and he's going to playgroup Halloween party as a pumpkin.

ICuntSeeYourPoint · 17/10/2016 13:43

I wouldn't dress a baby as Chucky, I think that's horrible tbh. However, it's none of your ex's business what outfit you put on your child on the day you're having him. He only gets to choose what the baby wears when he has him for the day.

milkyface · 17/10/2016 13:47

Oh god who cares. Whatever you dress him up as he wont have a clue anyway he's only a baby.

My 6 month old is being a skeleton (it's a onesie and a hat) - he won't know anything about it, until he sees a picture of himself when he's older.

Why can't you just each have your own outfit?

HateSummer · 17/10/2016 13:47

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BlancheBlue · 17/10/2016 13:48

Chucky costume for a 20 month old? Could you get more vulgar?

milkyface · 17/10/2016 13:51

It's unfair to call op fucking stupid, and plus not everyone will be aware if the James bulger connection.

clumsyduck · 17/10/2016 13:54

Yabu with costume choice as others have said ! If you having a party or going somewhere then most supermarkets do cute little outfits such as pumpkins etc . If its just going to be you and ds why don't you save your money and do something like bake Halloween buns together ? More age appropriate I think!

RottenTomatoes959 · 17/10/2016 14:00

HateSummer That's really not fair. I was obviously not aware of the James Bulger connection,I wasn't even born when that happened. If I'd know which I do know thanks to pp I'd never have even considered it. I am in no way stupid, just perhaps a bit tactless and if you'd bothered to RTFT before attacking me you would have seen my previous posts saying I did realise I was unreasonable and would change costumes.

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clumsyduck · 17/10/2016 14:05

Op just ignore ! As I say I think re think costume choice ! But no need for people calling you stupid whatsoever

myownprivateidaho · 17/10/2016 14:09

Agree with others about the tastelessness of the costume, but good for you OP for taking the others' posts on board.

I do think that on matters like this it isn't unreasonable for both parents to have a say. If your ex wanted to dress your child up in a costume that upset you, then I'm sure you'd think he was unreasonable if he insisted on going ahead anyway.

RottenTomatoes959 · 17/10/2016 14:09

Thank you clumsyduck Smile

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HateSummer · 17/10/2016 14:11

Sorry I posted that without reading the thread. I see you had a rethink now.

You weren't born in 1993?

NoCapes · 17/10/2016 14:12

The OP has said several times she will change the costume and people are still piling in on her
Why don't people read the actual thread Confused

RottenTomatoes959 · 17/10/2016 14:13

Nope not until late 94 Grin

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