Eating when we have visitors

[Alicesmith85]

My husband is grating on me hugely lately for a variety of reasons. We had an argument yesterday as my mum popped round to return something of mine. We were eating dinner at the time. I think it is incredibly rude that he carries on stuffing his face whilst my mum was in the living room, he also had the tv on full volume and made no attempt to turn it down and interrupted my conversation rudely several times. My mum was asking me about a descion I need to make about work, I said I would probably go ahead with the descion he then buts in, she's doing it end off. This descion has no impact on him what so ever and is mine alone. My mum was talking to me directly, not him!
I've spoken to him a number of times over the years about interrupting my conversations/contradicting me and he refuses to stop.

Rant over! Thanks to those who read.

I think it's always going to be an issue if one partner prioritises other people's needs over their partners.

Be that a DM/mil/friend etc.

I think it's clearly ridiculous that the op expected her dh to stop eating at sight of her mother and so I am finding it hard taking the interruptions and corrections seriously.

Not really enough info op here and I think far more of s back story with your family dropping in and staying.

Yanbu about the interrupting and answering for you.

Yabu about the eating but you have accepted that already.

I wouldn't stop eating but the rest is really rude, and as for the interrupting - is he such a bellend in general?

Ah! The Blessed Certainty of those who
a) haven't taken on board that there are no other rooms downstairs for OP to have used;
b) See eating in fornt of the telly as common/rude/sinful etc;

Whatver else is wrong in her relationship OP needs to see that her actions are also not as loving nad normal as she may view them. Only when she recongnises the reality of their relationship can she decide if she thinks it is worth continuing in it, or not!

We all know he was being rude, for his interrupting and putting OP down, but not all of us seem to have a problem with sidelining a partner in their own home!

what if she has stayed for hours

To be honest if I had popped round to someone's house with out ringing first I would feel well akward I would of dropped the thing off said sorry can see your busy then went

You are in the wrong husband is correct t you need to say sorry

If I turned up at someone's house while they were eating a meal I would sit quietly on the sofa noodling on my phone until they'd finished. I can't stand talking to people while I'm trying to eat.

That's even worse. Then you're hurrying your meal because this unexpected person is sat on your sofa waiting for you to finish instead of doing the polite thing (which is really to make contact first and never 'pop round') but saying, 'Oh, so sorry to interrupt! I'll come back later,' don't come in and leave.

I think you need to address the issues with your 'D'H
Do a separate post in 'relationships' and go into more detail (not about your DM interrupting dinner).
This isn't about your DM popping in to drop something off.
This is all about your horrible sounding 'D'H!!