to expect my husband to remember my birthday

[wakeupandsmellthecoffee]

notice I didnt write Darling Husband

No not being unreasonable, how would he feel if you forgot his?

No.
You are now legally entitled to write a list of ten commandments.
And he has to obey them. Today.
Otherwise we will come round and look very sternly at him.
Is it your birthday today? If so, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

I never have so I dont know . He never remembers so I dont know why it bothers me but it makes me feel sad .

he said sorry and we will do something tomorrow . I replied my birthday is TODAY not tomorrow . so dont worry about it .

happy birthday1

i would be pissed off can you forget his this year just so he knows how it feels. My dp remebered my birthday but didn't have time to get anything together but like my dad said he had a year ffs.

Oh what an arse

Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday to you
Happy Birthday dear wakeupandsmellthecoffee
Happy Birthday to you

Champagne anyone?

Thank you I wouldnt mind but yesturday I bought my own birthday cake for today ( for the kids sake ) AND I bought my son 4 little pressies to give to me this morning I told him daddy bought them for him . And to top all that lot off my Ds got me up at 5 30 this morning to get up and play in the snoe ( I did ) LOL and my car broke down today after school with an upset baby in the car .

I love bubbly .

Oh, wakeupandsmellthecofee! I think he's an arse.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!

(It's my ds2's birthday today, so it's a fine day for a birthday, have extra congrats!) let me offer you some fairy cakes, chocolate minirolls (ds's one and only request) and a large slice of chocolate cake decorated with dog and cars (his two favourite things).

Love pt x.

thank you

Happy Birthday!

Remind him next year though - I start about a month before mine - just to make sure. Better to remind them when they have the time to get something and no excuse at all, than wait and see if they remember.

I talk about it so much, what I want for a present, where I want to go etc. Its really mean and thoughtless of him not to remember but my husband is given no chance to forget.

i did I told him all I wanted was cup of coffee in bed and a bunch of flowers .

"... and my car broke down today after school with an upset baby in the car"

Poor you! I hope he's made it up to you this evening with extra grovelling.
Happy Birthday by the way!

You shouldn't have to buy your own presents and your own cake . It makes me sad to think of anyone doing that. He needs a right royal kick up the jacksie, the lazy mean sod. Show him this thread!

it's just plain lazy. i am sad for you happy birthday all the same xxx

wakeupandsmellthecoffee, my dh would never remember my birthday unless I reminded him. He also has trouble remembering the ds's birthdays. But his mother seems to be the same, she forgot SILs birthday ( her own daughter last year even though it falls on Valentines day so there are plenty of reminders! I have put it down to a genetic defect and this year I said to him
"It's my birthday next week and rather than sulk and get upset, I'm reminding you now so you can organise something"
So I got brought out to an award-winning restaurant which was very nice and much better than getting myself all worked up.

No, you are not unreasonable. He sounds very mean. I'd be fuming. I feel very cross that you had to go out and get your own cake and presents.

Happy birthday; hope you had a nice time with your children eating your cake at least.

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Did he make up for it then?

Speaking as someone who's husband did not even wish me happy birthday today (hi - we are nearly birthday buddies!)- did not remind the kids, or get them a b'day pressie for me - I would say YES!
The first person to wish me HB today was the man at First Direct bank this afternoon! - tip - if you have telephone banking, call them on your birthday! It is husbands's birthday next week & I will get a cake & pressie for the kids to give him, 'cos I am not as unreasonable as him...
I am used to it now - on balance okay - hence still married, just seems to always be in a foul mood on my birthday. (Stems from minor tiff last night over the lights - he sulks!) My revenge is to have a lovely day on my own. This was almost kiboshed as DS2 off school with cough, but he & I went to a local resto for lunch anyway and cuddled up on the sofa watching Star Wars (ho hum , not my choice, but don't think he would have sat through Brief Encounter...

He is a bit thoughtless IMO, but I suspect this is a man thing.

I instruct my dp in selected items I would like for my birthday by
a) Marching him round shops
b) Putting chosen websites in his favourites
c) Circling items in magazines and shoving them in front of his nose.

Otherwise I would get nothing.

Also, If I don't see signs of pre-birthday activity at least 2 weeks prior(ie, smuggling in bags, going shopping etc) I get narky.....not one to suffer in silence me!