To have ended this friendship?

[JuniperLee]

I'll try and keep it as short as possible.

I moved to a new department around 3 months ago and became friends with someone there. (He's gay so no romantic involvement if that's relevant)

He came out and told me a week ago that back when we became friends that a woman in our department (moved from the same department as myself) had messaged him and told him to stay away from me and then listed all these things I had done (in an email at work)

Really disgusting things that were complete lies.

Now he expects me to do nothing about what's been said and to just forget it.

I spoke to my manager to get advice and I said I didn't want her confronted because then it would make things awkward for my friend.

He then rings me up and demands I don't take it further because he doesn't want his emails looked into.

This has put me back on my anti depressants and i just can't see them in the same way. Aibu?

OP people don't always act logically. As I posted above, tell him it's out of your hands now. Then act as if nothing has happened between you. You've got to work with the guy so be friendly and if he chooses not to be then it's his outlook. However he's not the sort of person I'd necessarily confide personal stuff to.

This sounds familiar. Have you had a recent thread about him? I thought it was the same one until I saw the date.

He has some adjenda. Why on earth did he tell you this, then tell you not to say anything. I think he wants to alienate you from the others, either to 'keep' you to himself or for another reason. I don't like the sound of him anyway.

Get your manager to look into it. Tough what this 'friend' says. There is no honest reason for him telling you this so assume he is stirring and you want to know why. If he has found something out that is personal, he could have found out some other way. Don't assume someone else has actually sent this email. What reason would she have for doing so?