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"Mum how can I possibly fit in a part time job ....

204 replies

BigSandyBalls2015 · 16/10/2016 12:23

...... you do realise I'm in year 11 don't you, under enormous stress, with sooooo much revision to do".

Said my DD last night, with a completely straight face, after spending the entire day lying on the sofa under a blanket with her phone, before heading to a mates to get ready for a party ShockHmm

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Catinthecorner · 16/10/2016 15:53

On the where to find part time jobs for a few hours a week, sports stadiums often want someone to serve food/work the kiosks just for a few hours around the match/game.

BishopBrennansArse · 16/10/2016 15:55

I had to work right through my GCSEs and A levels. I only got the grades I did because I didn't bother to revise, and they were all still passes.

foxessocks · 16/10/2016 15:56

I got my first job at 15 in GCSE year. It didn't effect my grades but tbf I spent quite a lot of time doing school work and put a lot of pressure on myself. My parents were supportive of me getting a job (they didn't make me or even suggest it ) and it really brought me out of my shell, I made some good friends when at school I didn't have many real friends.

So it really depends on the child!

BishopBrennansArse · 16/10/2016 15:59

Mine was retail - 8 hours a week, 4 on a Friday night and 4 on a Saturday night, key times when other staff wanted their nights out.

PlumsGalore · 16/10/2016 16:00

My DD worked 8 hours a week over Saturday and two evenings from 15 in a chippy so right through her GCSEs whilst also rehersing for a lead role in a school musical. It's possible, however jobs are scarce for that age group until they are offficially school leaving age and have their NI number, so not necessarily that easy to get.

bouncydog · 16/10/2016 16:13

Few years ago now, but definately did not let DD have a job apart from school holidays when she got to 16. I think its important that children have time to be normal teens apart from all of the studying they have to do. We also didn't let DD work at Uni to ensure that she could focus on her studies and be a full part of student life. To each their own, but you spend a long time working.

CheeseAtFourpence · 16/10/2016 16:13

I worked from 13 onwards and did 3 shifts a week during my GCSEs. Got decent grades. Worked throughout my A-levels, degree and postgrad. I recruit and the number of younger people without any work experience is staggering. We look favourably on those that have made the effort to gain some.

failingatlife · 16/10/2016 16:25

My DS would love a part time job but they seem every difficult to come by for u-16s these days. When I was young (80s) loads of kids did paper/milk rounds - these are non-existent now at least where I live. I do think working teaches them life skills they wont get from education.

Crispsheets · 16/10/2016 16:28

Ds has paid for all his driving lessons, saves £300 a month and keeps Pretty Green going 😂

daisypond · 16/10/2016 16:36

bouncy - I'd say a lot, if not the majority, of young people have to work at uni to make enough money to survive. The idea that it's a parent's choice to "not let DD work at Uni to ensure that she could focus on her studies and be a full part of student life" is one that only a few parents are going to be able to "choose".

FlabulousChic · 16/10/2016 16:38

Sorry. I hold taking GCSEs or a levels should work simple and why would they. Parents are supposed to support their children financially not push them out to get part time jobs when studying is hard enough.

FlabulousChic · 16/10/2016 16:39

And again no child taking GCSEs or a levels should have to work. Mine are now 28 and 24 never made them work studying and getting some down time is more important

Unicorncatsack · 16/10/2016 16:40

flab

Nobody pushed me to get a job thanks, I got one off my own back.

I think it's very valuable.

LittleLionMansMummy · 16/10/2016 16:49

Erm yes margaret it was tongue in cheek - hence I didn't comment. But given that she too spends all hours in her phone in bed, doesn't have a job, doesn't study much (or exercise!) but goes to endless parties, it did make me smile wryly. I think she could definitely learn a thing or two about time management.

witsender · 16/10/2016 16:50

You may have done Unicorn, but the OP's child would be being pushed into it.

FlabulousChic · 16/10/2016 16:52

Why shouldn't kids lay around all day.... Jesus they are going to have to work for the next forty odd years. What is it with this place wanting their kids to grow up so fast.

Unicorncatsack · 16/10/2016 16:58

Er because part of raising kids is teaching them to be responsible and helpful adults flab?

I wouldn't be doing my job as a parent if I just allowed my DC to laze about doing fuck all every day.

BishopBrennansArse · 16/10/2016 17:00

Agreed, I had to work to learn to drive. Lived rurally and no other bugger was going to pay for it!

LittleLionMansMummy · 16/10/2016 17:02

I guess Flab because 16 is not exactly a 'child' and it'll be a harsh wake up call when they leave full time education in two years otherwise. I'd rather prepare my ds a little than see him struggle with real life.

AGenie · 16/10/2016 17:22

I didn't work, but I did Guides right through to my Queens' Guide badge and also Duke of Edinburgh's award and a whole lot of other things that became good experience on my cv and ultimately led to a good job after University. I don't think that paid employment is the best route necessarily, unless the child wants money for something. I didn't.

myownprivateidaho · 16/10/2016 17:25

Can't believe anyone would make their child work GCSE year. Frankly I think it's a bad idea during A Levels and degree too (except for summer/Xmas hols obs). You do realise that if they get better results they will increase their lifetime earning potential by far more than the value of a year or two of 6 hrs a week at minimum wage???

thewavesofthesea · 16/10/2016 17:30

I had a part time job from the age of 14; only a few hours a week. From aged 17, so during second year of A levels I worked over 20 hours a week at a cinema. Looking back I have no idea how I did it and would not recommend it; but it did give me a healthy income for a student and the ability/money for downtime. I also made some great friends and some great skills that were helpful later on.

I passed all my Alevels at grade A too; so it must be possible to do both!

BishopBrennansArse · 16/10/2016 17:31

At the expense of actual work experience that employers value highly...

BarbaraofSeville · 16/10/2016 17:32

That's not necessarily the case Idaho. Plenty of graduates aren't even in graduate jobs anyway.

Results don't necessarily translate into better jobs. As the 11k a month earnings threads, there are lots of factors that lead to how much you earn, a good degree being only one of them.

I got a First in Chemistry while working 30 hours a week. How could I have improved on the highest grade awarded, if I had worked less?

BertrandRussell · 16/10/2016 17:33

Ds is in year 11. Most of his friends don't have jobs. He is very lucky to have a very flexible well paid job but most of his friends haven't been able to find anything even though they'be tried. It's a small town and lots of teenagers........

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