Is my dd bu to not want pictures of her daughter

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To be posted on social media by her exes girlfriend??
My ds doesn't put photos of her daughter on social media (although not entirely sure whether that even matters)
she has asked the girlfriend to stop posting pictures but all she's done is block my ds so she can't see them instead.
We have managed to get a look at her social media pages and the whole thing is my dn with hashtag love her, my best friend, miss her so much, loves my little girl etc etc
I get its nice to have a step parent that loves your dd but I personally think she has gone too far and seems a bit obsessed!
I think the girlfriend is being hugely disrespectful to her as a mother but is my ds bu?
Is there anything she can do about it?

Sounds messy. Sorry OP.

The comments are too much, I also think it sounds like the girlfriend is going OTT to impress her boyfriend, the ex.

It's nice that she treats her well and with kindness but I sometimes find it a little odd when new girlfriends are so intense with their relationship with their partner's kid(s), it's like it's a competition or can come across a bit desperate, needy or showoffy when on social media.

or can come across a bit desperate, needy or showoffy when on social media.

Yep. I'm cringing on her behalf.

When you talk to your ex about this, you could emphasise the more dangerous aspect of fb, like you have no idea who's looking at your photos, who's looking at your page. Ask him to ensure that her privacy settings are really tight. I've found that people don't think about that aspect so much, but if you point it out to them they become more careful.

If your ex is OK with her posting those pics, then you're a bit stuck, but if her settings are good and she's not friending anyone and everyone, then it's not so bad. She could make a group of people she actually knows in rl and make the pics only visible to them.

Fwiw I reported my ex for posting photos of DD using the under 13 reason. They all got removed. I had him blocked but a friend used her fb to give me all the URLs of the photographs and that was all I needed to give them.

She is claiming some sort of ownership. I would not approve.

The Facebook link clearly says a parent can ask for them to be removed. It doesn't say both parents have to agree.

They definitely don't need to both agree given that it's my daughters dad's profile who I reported and had pictures removed.

Especially when my sis cannot 'police' what she is posting ie identifying pics of her in school uniform, photos of her naked at the beach etc.

Is the DC safe with her father? Because that is the key issue - if one parent believes the other is putting their DC at risk, then they have a responsibility to intervene; with the support of the court, if necessary.

It sounds like a high-conflict separation, so mediation is the first step; but in the mean time if the mother believes her DC is a risk of harm, then contact should be stopped.

It is quite high conflict mostly because her dad is a complete idiot! (And that's not me being biased he is actually stupid!)
Talking to him about safety etc or trying to get him to understand from her point of view is a complete waste of time.... He's just turned up at my sisters house today with her daughter (who's 5 but probably height and weight of a 3/4 year old) sat in the front seat of his car with no car seat or booster or anything. Seat belt on but diagonal but behind her back so basically a lap belt!
I might tell her to try the Facebook reporting thing but I don't know how Instagram works so not sure what she can do about that.
I just feel so sorry for her because it's a continuous battle with everything and every time she just gives up and gets on with it (maintenance for eg) he finds something else to just be a complete fucking dick about!
I actually feel a little bit sorry for his gf because she is a complete rebound relationship. They have been together before and split up. She got married to someone else but has obviously just sat waiting in the hope my sisters ex would leave her because as soon as my sister kicked him out she left her husband to get back with him and I honestly think if my sister asked him to give things another go he would leave her in an instant! But she is obsessed with his daughter to the point where we have wondered if she can't have her own kids or something so is with him just for his little girl! It's weird!