To be annoyed at friends digs about my looks?

[shadyquestion]

I am now in my early 40s as are most of my friends most of whom I have been close to since my teens. When we were younger I was the fat one, the plain one, the one guys ignored, the one with greasy skin.

I wasn't ever really fat but about a size 12 and never dieted but instead just ate a varied healthy diet while they all starved themselves to be waif life (it was the 90's). I did have greasy skin which meant I had to take care of it as I've been using retin a cream since my teens as well as spf 30 - 50 daily most of my life. Night clubs and going out weren't much fun for me and I couldn't drink as it made me ill so I didn't ever smoke or party much while they are all out soaking up the decade, one friend even got off with a v. famous Brit pop singer which is something that would never happen to me.

Now at this age I have aged better than some of my friends and don't have any wrinkles or sagging etc and pretty much haven't changed much at all, I haven't suddenly become a great beauty but I do look young. I am getting pissed off though with my friends always commenting on stuff like "I can't believe you don't have any wrinkles ... bitch" or just constantly complaining about their skin etc to me and making comparisons. Perhaps it is meant as a compliment but it doesn't feel like it. It kind of feels like they can't bear to see me have my turn at being the pretty one, not that I even am I just look young.

I know I will probably get flamed for this but is it so bad that their attitude and little digs are pissing me off?

[groovergirl]

Everyone has her time in the sun, Shady, and it seems yours is now. So bask in those lovely oblique compliments and enjoy your gorgeous early 40s -- a time when many women look their best.

Alas, your post has made me so nostalgic .... I was a hideous, pimply teenager and frumpy in my early 20s, but hit my stride around 26 and thoroughly enjoyed the '90s. In 1996 I was a samba dancer in the Rio Carnaval. What a decade!

But that was MY time in the sun. Yours might well be now, so frock up and enjoy it.

By the way, size 12 seems to be the currently fashionable size -- slim but with dangerous curves. Go get a minxy cocktail frock, you vamp, and blow all those tired ex-beauties out of the water.

[Italiangreyhound]

groovergirl love it!