Alcohol - a bottle a week.

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AIBU.
Is a bottle of whisky a week a lot?
70cl.
This is what my DH goes thro a week minimum.
I bf and bed share with DD. So don't drink at all anymore. Even before DD, I barely drank.
He sleeps in spare room as drinking and smoking and sleeping with DD aren't allowed.
I think it's a lot but he doesn't.
I also find it annoying that that's about £13 per week from food budget on alcohol....

It does equal to about two an evening...

No abuse no drunken anything, only after Baby Matchstick is asleep.

And no he doesn't mix in the summer he'd have two cans o beer and nothing else. Winter it's (Sainsbury's) JD and coke.

It's fine.

Normal even, let him crack on.

It's 28 units in a 75cl bottle.

(assuming 37.5& ABV) So not fantastic from a health point of view, but not AA territory either.

Yes to alcohol free days or maybe buying 1/3rd bottle and then a half bottle to last the week - has he said anything about cutting down?

I don't think it's a massive deal if he is a decent person aside from it...unless £13 a week is a massive chunk of your weekly budget and you're having to cut back in other areas to provide it. I

Does he have a stressful job OP?

I'd say it's less about how much he is drinking and more about how it's affecting his life and those around him.

I think alcohol free days are good and that's what I've imposed on myself- but I still drink nearly that in wine a week. But no DC, more disposable income- I imagine it'd curb if I had those things as a factor.

I don't think it's a huge amount.

Many members of mumsnet are probably having a glass or two of wine most nights of the week.

That's a lot by anybody's standards.

I wouldn't say so, I'd say about average. 28 units in a bottle of Saintsbury's Whiskey, which isn't hugely above the old guidelines for men of 21 units.

Is he drinking it neat? Someone I knew had cancer of the mouth from drinking neat spirits.

So your dh also smokes, but you're only bothered about the drinking?! Or was your smoking comment random? Drinking that much Coke probably isn't good for him either. At least he's not in the spare room looking at online porn and gambling websites (or is he?...), or he really would have a lot of vices!

Obviously I don't know what your budget is but it is less than £2 a day for a relaxing treat which sounds ok to me. Lots of people would spend 3 times that amount on a coffee and a sandwich every day. Its about the price of a takeaway pizza or a manicure a week all of which people on otherwise tight budgets might stretch to as a treat. The alcohol levels sound ok too. A bit higher than government guidelines but they were pretty much plucked out of thin air.

You say he is not unpleasant or negligent or abusive through drink so if the family budget can accommodate this I would let him enjoy it. However if him enjoying his whisky and coke/fags is meaning you and the DD go without then the two of you need to talk.

Oh the smoking truly pisses me off as a non smoker I hate with a passion I hate him touching DD even after hand washing and alcohol gel. So that would be a totally def thread.
He can watch poem - path and he'd not gamble. Not smart enough in nicest poss way.

So I'm unreadable sort of.
That's fine I don't have a go at him. More curious to see what others though and it's kinda problem firm money point of view as it's one income household and £50 ish a month seems like a lot on alcohol when I had to get my mum to buy daughters first shoes.
So yeah my main problem is the cash then health.....

It seems a lot, especially as it's cheap nasty shit.

I'd be more pissed off about the smoking though.

It's a crap double whammy. I hope he brings something good to the party!

For those saying it's the equivalent of 2 cans of lager a night and 2 bottles wine a week etc.
It's really not.
70cl is 28 glasses whiskey (25ml) so a standard pub serving. That's 4 glasses of whiskey a night.
If he was having one a night, I would say it's a non issue. But 4....? That's rather a lot. Could he not swap for something not as strong or maybe go down to 3/4s of a bottle and then down to half?

Well, if it's a budget issue then I'd say that's more of a problem.

How much is he spending on fags?

"It's really not."

It really is.

2 440ml cans of Stella (for ex) a night at 2.1 units is 29.4 units over a week.

Smoking is far more of a health risk than the drinking, and also impacts on your health and your DD's health.

What 'treats' do you get? It's important you get something for you too.

Stella is a very strong lager though! Every I know calls it wife beater . So I wouldn't be best pleased with a partner drinking two cans of that every night either.

Drinking every night is bad.
Drinking because you need to in order to relax is bad.
Drinking that many units every week is bad.

He needs to make some changes.