AIBU to ask inlaws for a pram for DS?

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DS is nearly two, and the inlaws have asked for suggestions for his birthday present. I want to ask them for a pram - he really likes pushing the ones at nursery, and popping stuff he wants to push around in them. DP refuses to ask his parents for a pram - he's been reticent about whether it's because HE thinks DS shouldn't have a pram, or whether he thinks his parents won't be willing to get one. AIBU to think that he is being ridiculous? So as not to drip-feed - the inlaws and I aren't on the best of terms right now, so I'd feel weird asking them myself. Shall I just let it go, or push DP on it?

FWIW, my dad is buying DS a toy kitchen for a joint xmas/birthday present. He's getting a train set from us for his birthday, and a tricycle for Christmas.

pixie that is BRILLIANT! The ultimate middle class toy. I'm so sorry the DDs are just about past it being appropriate.

Would it be ok to purchase it ironically and actually take it to Waitrose??

My son has this one, it was the cheapest. I didn't realise how expensive they can be!
www.amazon.co.uk/Bayer-Design-Doll%60s-Stroller-Blue/dp/B00CGTK9BS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1476179568&sr=8-1&keywords=buggy+toy

I'd ask DP to ask them, I see no issues with it. And as others have said, you can buy one for next to nothing, so that shouldn't be an issue to them.

When I was a child my younger DB often played with my prams and dolls, and loved and wore my hand-me-down pink flowery dressing gown! (Note, they weren't even in 'boy' colours).

I have got my 3 year old son a pram for Christmas it's what he wants it's yellow mamas and papas got it for £37 in the sale. I must say I have had a few people ask why did I get it and one or 2 suggest I need to get him out of wanting things like this otherwise he's going to end up being a willy woofter as they put it. I person don't believe in gender persific toys if my boys wants dolls prams princess dress up ect then they will get it.

You'll know your in-laws and if it's likely they won't want to buy him a pram for whatever reason, or your dp doesn't want to ask for whatever reason, then just buy one him yourself and don't try to make a drama out of it.

There is no point asking if you already know the response unless you are only asking to show how cool and gender neutral you are which is really pointless.

I'm quite glad he likes playing with toy kitchens and prams, other than that it's cars, cars, cars, trucks and trains!

WeAll, Like I've said already, I really DON'T know what they'd say. I'm quite surprised DP is reluctant to ask, and I'm not sure whether it's coming from him or his expectation of their reaction.

In fact, MY dad is a little bit more stone-age about things like that and he's happy to get DS a toy kitchen.

OP I think there are two issues here.

One is the suitability of a pram for a boy- which I agree with the other posters, in my view totally suitable and I would have no hesitation in buying one if my own son wanted one.

The other issue is the reasons behind this particular action. You have already said you are not on the best of terms, your OH is reluctant to ask as he doesn't think it's a suitable toy ( another huge issue here).

Is there some reason you want to stir up a hornet's nest here? It all sounds very passive aggressive here so you can use your OH to have a possible poke at your in laws.
Why not just buy the pram yourself instead of courting all this possible drama?

user, it would only be passive-aggressive if I thought they would object. As it is, I think it's DP's issue, or at least his concern that they will have an issue. I'm not wuite sure why you think it's either a hornet's nest or a possible drama. If DP does ask, and they say no, fair enough. But as it is, I'd have to think of something else for them to get, instead of the perfectly acceptable present of a pram, if it's just my DP's issue.

I was going to say trolley too. That one linked is AMAZING! DS had a trolley that he bought with his Christmas money when he was about 2. Hardly ever bloody played with it but it had wheels so he wanted it.

I remember being at a friends house and DS pushing a (pink) pram around. The dad joked to me that I should "remind him of that when he was older" and it took me ages to work out what the problem was. He is pretty much 'woman does wife/mother stuff, dad does spoiling/being fun stuff.'

Little update - I nipped out at lunch and called DP - turns out, it was his issue and now he's conceded that he's being silly. he's going to ask his parents to buy a trolley or pram, and we will get whichever they don't choose.

Thank goodness!

Hope he feels the same way if DS wants a doll next. Or a cooking set. Or an Elsa costume.

I think each of those would be a mini-battle, to be honest. DS hasn't shown any interest in dolls, but DP has made disapproving noises about boys with barbies. I don't really get it because he's so progressive in his attitudes to women and to equality for the sexes yet he has this hang up about "boys'" toys and "girls'" toys.

A kitchen is ok, though - maybe because he likes to cook?

Sigh. This is one way in which it is a bit easier for parents of girls - nobody bats an eyelid if a girl plays with a dinosaur. (As long as she looks pretty while she does it )

Very true. And as long as it's a pink dinosaur.

My DS loved his pram when he was little. Think it was about £6 from ELC. Although it was blue checked so not very girly as such, but his favourite thing to take for a walk in it was a bright pink, t-shirt of mine that he used a a comforter. "She"had more holes than fabric eventually and he still takes it to bed now most nights (aged 11). Rightly or wrongly I drew the line at him walking the pram to school in P2

We've just bought our grand daughter a train set. In this day and age it should not be an issue to ask for a pram or doll for a boy or car or train set for a girl. If it is such a problem for your in laws then just get one yourself for him. You can't really force it on them if they really don't want to but most grandparents would not have an issue I don't think.