AIBU to ask inlaws for a pram for DS?

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DS is nearly two, and the inlaws have asked for suggestions for his birthday present. I want to ask them for a pram - he really likes pushing the ones at nursery, and popping stuff he wants to push around in them. DP refuses to ask his parents for a pram - he's been reticent about whether it's because HE thinks DS shouldn't have a pram, or whether he thinks his parents won't be willing to get one. AIBU to think that he is being ridiculous? So as not to drip-feed - the inlaws and I aren't on the best of terms right now, so I'd feel weird asking them myself. Shall I just let it go, or push DP on it?

FWIW, my dad is buying DS a toy kitchen for a joint xmas/birthday present. He's getting a train set from us for his birthday, and a tricycle for Christmas.

Suggest the shopping trolley to DP see what he says. As PILs asked for ideas it does not mean they will buy every item on a list, you could throw in a few suggestions "things DS likes playing with at nursery" including a pram and shopping trolley and they'll make up their own minds.

My dds have a pram which nanny and Granda got them and a cheap plastic trolley santa brought. Dd2 adores the trolley my DN adores the pram but DSis is fine with that he puts anything from a cuddly toy to a ball (and thanks to dd1s helpful suggestion the cat once). DN is 2 dd2 19 months

The attitudes around this drive me mad!

Ds is what people would call a 'typcial boy' (which is an irritating description in itself ) in that he runs around like a mad thing, climbs everything etc. but at a friend's house recently he loved her pram and doll. He already has a shopping trolley but he actaully liked to cuddle the doll, give it some milk and push it round. So that's one of his birthday presenst sorted!

A relative raised an eyebrow when I mentioned it but that was swiftly dismissed by me. Dh has no issue at all, why would encouraging caring play behaviour be a bad thing?!!

www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-toy-waitrose-shopping-trolley/p1525094 - a Waitrose trolley!

Again, I can't ask them at the moment. Maybe I'll suggest a shopping trolley to DP to ask them instead.

Thanks for the replies!

pixie, that's brilliant!

What about a wheel barrow as an "alternative"?
DS loved the cheapo pram, put it on the list regardless.

I bought DS a collapsible buggy as it took up less room.
We've still got it and he loaded it up with cuddlies and zoomed round the garden with it last weekend. He's six.
made a change from Minecraft

I'm glad you're going to opt for the trolley instead. You're not UR at all to buy your DS a pram but YABU to use his birthday as an opportunity to annoy your PILs.
Don't use your DS to try to score points in your battle with the PILs. Between the one-up-manship with the bikes and trying to get your DH to ask them for a pram solely because it will make them uncomfortable , you seem overly focused on point scoring against your PILs rather than making sure your DS has a nice birthday.

DP thinks the trolley is a better idea. I've put a nice trolley and a pram on his wishlist, so DP can send them the link and they can choose.

(I know having an Amazon wishlist for DS is probably uncouth/declasse/awful/grabby, but we don't live near any of our family, and they always ask for suggestions, so I tell them whatever he's into and say, he has a list if you want the link? Then people can suit themselves.

make a pram and give the money to charity

APlace, tbh I didn't think it would annoy the inlaws. I was suprised when DP was reluctant to ask them. I'm not sure they would think anything of it.

In fact, I'm not sure where you got the impression that I was asking for a pram from them "solely because it will make them uncomfortable" them. I certainly didn't say that. I think maybe you've misread my OP - I said DP was reluctant to ask them.

They have no idea that I was annoyed about the trike last year - I never mentioned it to them. I'd just prefer to be the ones to give DS a present he would really enjoy, since we can afford it.

Sorry, I must have misread - I thought you knew it would make them uncomfortable which made it seem deliberate that you were asking them for the pram rather than something else.

It is truly depessing that in 2016 there's still an issue about boys having prams, or people saying that those prams have to be "boy" coloured (wtaf?)

This.

Yeah just ask them for one. I'm pretty sure DS1 had one when he was that age. I think he used to push his action man around in it.

I just don't get why they would be offended by it. Do they think he's not going to be pushing a pram around when he has kids of his own?

In 1996 my dad was horrified dd got a car mat and garage for Christmas and went on about it all bloody day

DS loves his pink pushchair that he got at 2.5 and takes his stuffed toys all over our neighborhood in it. No one has ever batted an eye. It's the John Lewis one, very sturdy and I think was under a tenner.

When my ds was 2 mil bought him a fold up buggy, it was the wrong size for him, he'd be crushed in it, so instead he used to walk and put a monkey toy in the pram.

She would take him around the park doing this and loads of people would stop to talk to him, never had a raised eyebrow. its just a boy pushing a pram?? and he had the time of his life. He still came home, climbed over everything and ran as fast as he could whilst being an avenger, perhaps suggest a smallish fold up buggy and say it's for ds himself if you think they will be weird and cause a fuss.... or just tell them its your child, its what he likes to do so get the fuck over it.

My son used to play with the prams at nursery so I got him one for xmas. He's even taken it out sometimes. Dp wasn't keen at first but... Dads push prams too, change nappies and feed babies.

Ask them. If they don't get one then you can. F**k what he says.

this one from argos
www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/5498112.htm

My DD had a Li'l Ladybuggy that DS loved and pushed around all of the time.

If DP and PIL are asking "What would DS like for his birthday" then the answer is "a pram". That is what would make your son happy.

I think Dads in general are far more hands on now than a generation or two ago so it makes sense that little boys and girls are copying both their parents. My DD sees DH pushing the buggy, changing nappies, sweeping the floor, ironing etc. She isn't just "being a mummy" when she joins in, she's "being a parent". Maybe tell DP that your son is copying him.

Yes, I think I'll get him a little buggy anyway. He loves pushing things with wheels.

I have 8xds and every one of them had a dolls buggy!!
Ds 2 yo is doll obsessed and has about 10!! My oldest ds is a dad now and is more than happy to push the pram and is a great dad!!