AIBU to be annoyed with DH after my first day back at work

[Roshambo]

Today was my first day back at work full time after mat leave. It is also my DH's bday. Card and pressies for him this morning in bed with kids when we woke up. Both got up and had breakfast/got kids (4 yrs and 8mths) ready. I took them to childminder en route to work and collected them after work, home by 530. DH is off work this week. Got home to find him playing Xbox in his pjs still. He decided to then have a shower while I (still in work clothes) got dinner ready, folded laundry and looked after kids. By time we were brushing kids teeth for bed time he still hadn't asked me how my day was, so I said "I had a great first day thanks for asking". To which he said he had asked (I definitely do not remember this) and stormed off to read ds a story (normally something we all sit and do together). I haven't stopped since getting home so I sat in lounge with him for about 15 mins and have gone to bed early as an shattered. Am I in the wrong to be p*ed off with his attitude? Should I be more lenient because it's his birthday?

I do sweet FA on my birthday, I book it off work 11 months in advance so I don't have to do work.

The DC still go to school in which I don't do any school runs that day. I don't cook or clean.

Ditto for dh on his birthday.

If you can't have a lazy day on a birthday when can you.

So am home after day 2 of being back at work. And am over yesterday. However just for background he is quite petty/sulks about stuff and I've learnt over the years to ignore it/not pander to him, and act normal and he eventually comes round. Trying to discuss it with him makes him worse, not worth the hassle. I've never posted anything like this on mumsnet before and it has actually been really helpful to see all your different perspectives and for all the support (in the main) you have shown. For those who think I am needy, I beg to differ, I am v low maintenance and I normally tell DH about my day without him asking, but for some reason on my first day back after 9 mths off, I wanted him to ask me how it went. Maybe that is needy, maybe I just wanted to see if he was actually genuinely interested. So today he had had a shower during the day (yay!), it was again me who did the cooking (however he is cooking tomorrow, when we both work we take it in turns to cook with the odd exception) and he played with the children. So a far better night. I am however completely zonked as was up at midnight until 1:30 to feed/comfort dd, then again at 5am (DH got up for this one to try to settle her but she wanted milk again). I may have painted DH in a poor light... Aside from his sulks he is an amazing husband and dad, and does a lot more at home/with children than I see friend's partners doing with their children. We have agreed that we need to do a check list of things to do in evenings so that he can help out and I don't get annoyed that he hasn't done anything. I am probably guilty of expecting him to "know" what to do, when clearly his brain isn't built that way.
I'm now ready for my bed (lurgy remains) hoping dd doesn't wake too much. And I'll be leaving DH to relax and finish watching his film, happy that he is no longer sulking!
So thank you all for making me smile and helping me through what was a bit of a sh**ty day yesterday. Hopefully it's just readjustment to being back at work.

It's a shame that being a great husband and father is so much easier to achieve than wife and mother, and at such of a lesser personal cost.
Glad you are settling back into work OP. Always good to have a job in case his sulking ever becomes a deal breaker!

Couldn't live with a sulker, what a baby!