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To feel like it IS the end of the world - Brexit

66 replies

lottieandmia · 10/10/2016 18:47

Every day I feel more anxious about what's going on right now - employers and schools having to declare how many people were not born in the U.K.

I feel as if this is only the beginning. I have a very severely disabled child and I am scared her rights will be taken away.

Every day I'm on the edge of tears. I desperately didn't want this to happen and I so shocked at how it has all played out :(

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Careforadrink · 10/10/2016 19:35

In the nicest possible way.....you're overreacting.

lasttimeround · 10/10/2016 19:51

I know how you feel op. We are both EU nationals with a severely disabled daughter. Worrying about rights to access social care services. We've both been here ages, from different countries so there's no where 6o go as a family. Anyway dh has his permanent residence papers already. I'm next. Then citizenship applications. Things do feel insecure. What can you access to secure your status? Assuming you want to stay in the UK. For me the worst bit is how heavy my heart feels. This isn't the country I thought I was in.

lasttimeround · 10/10/2016 19:54

Ah I see you're worried about disabled people's rights per se. Me too. But I don't know what else to do except sign petitions. The new bill scares me. Life is just getting meaner

W8woman · 10/10/2016 20:09

For me the worst bit is how heavy my heart feels. This isn't the country I thought I was in."

A hundred times this. I'm English born and bred but this is all devastating to me too. I was proud of our tolerant, welcoming, thriving country. Now I've been exposed to a hideous attitude in the majority which I could never have imagined.

Was it really only last year that a lovely woman in a hijab won GBBO and we were all thrilled for her? And gutted for the gay British Indian doctor who was runner-up?

StrawberryFooled · 10/10/2016 20:16

Hi Lottie - I think you are expressing entirely understandable fears. I accept other might not share them, but that doesn't mean you should be ridiculed for having them. I don't live in the uk but I would be hugely worried if I did.......

Mellifera · 10/10/2016 20:33

Was it really only last year that a lovely woman in a hijab won GBBO and we were all thrilled for her? And gutted for the gay British Indian doctor who was runner-up?

Yes, it seems a long time ago.

Dragongirl10 · 10/10/2016 20:41

What exactly are you scared will happen op?

HermioneWeasley · 10/10/2016 20:44

My Muslim parents voted for Brexit - please stop making assumptions about voters' motives and ethnicity

ModernContinental · 10/10/2016 20:47

As another mother of a disabled child this terrifies me :

Vulnerable man starved to death after benefits were cut

I fear this becoming far more common.
Ignorant people claim no-one starves in the UK.
Yes, they do.

OhtoblazeswithElvira · 10/10/2016 20:50

Brexit is the last gasp of the dying Empire

Totally agree with this.

The next 10-20 years will show us what new Britain will be like. I am curious and scared.

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lottieandmia · 10/10/2016 21:40

I'm not sure what I'm scared of. All I know is that is was difficult enough to to realise my dd's rights under New Labour...

As someone above has said, I've read that 3% of the top earners contribute around 50% taxes to our Exchequer and they are mainly bankers who will move to other countries because work here will dry up.

I am concerned about food - it's already expensive. I think David Cameron took a massive gamble which has backfired in the most spectacular way possible.

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lottieandmia · 10/10/2016 21:43

By the way my parents and I were born in the U.K. And so were my children, but I don't want to live in a xenophobic narrow minded jumped up island. I thought we were all about diversity and equality. I have quite a few friends who are EU nationals and some who are migrants from further away. They are fearful.

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lottieandmia · 10/10/2016 21:44

Omg and if Donald Trump wins I think I'll just turn to hard drugs

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Dragongirl10 · 10/10/2016 22:18

Erm, shouldn't you wait for something bad to happen before panicking?......after all it may not.

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lottieandmia · 10/10/2016 22:22

Dragon - the UK is no longer seen as an attractive investment. Money doesn't grow on trees...

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sunnyspot · 10/10/2016 22:33

Dragon - have you heard about the rise in racially motivated crime, the slump of the pound, the huge fall in inward investment in the UK, to name but a few ? Do you not class these as "something bad" ?
I too used to be proud of this country. Now I feel ashamed , and like many, very concerned over what the future holds.

fakenamefornow · 10/10/2016 22:38

I'm with you OP. I get more and more depressed about it, not less

Me too. The news just keeps getting worse. I really wish we were able to leave the country, dh doesn't want to because his skills are not transferable so he would end up in a low wage job plus, out of the EU we wouldn't be able to move somewhere else anyway.

cottonblankie · 10/10/2016 22:43

"My Muslim parents voted for Brexit - please stop making assumptions about voters' motives and ethnicity" This has been mentioned. Many british empire Muslims have zero interest in Europe, the are not keen on EU migrants especially from Poland. strange mindset.

neonrainbow · 10/10/2016 22:51

You know theres a brexit topic for this kind of over panicky, hysterical thread? I voted remain but oh look the world hasn't stopped turning on its axis because of the leave vote.

Niamer · 10/10/2016 22:51

YANBU these are really worrying times for all of us in the UK. I certainly do not get any comfort of reassurance when I listen to the people in charge at the moment!

I cheered myself up by thinking some of what the Tories said last week was SO appalling, it was a wake-up call to the opposition and the population as a whole to speak up, criticize and hold to account. After 24 June, my snoozing days are over!
I have become much closer to like-minded friends since the referendum result and made a fair few new ones. There are some amazing inspirational people out there fighting for what is right Flowers.

itsawonderfulworld · 10/10/2016 22:54

OP, no YANBU. I too am getting more and more depressed about it all.

If it's any comfort, I don't think your daughter's rights will be taken away as such (nor those of EU residents already established here). I really doubt there will be any significant sudden change. On the contrary, it will be insiduous and slow. Economically we're all going to be a LOT worse off in a few years' time. And the general atmosphere will continue to get worse.

And yes, the one thing I really can't get over is our Muslim (with shiny new British passports) and gay friends who voted for Brexit. I mean really!?! Could you really not see the monster that was going to be unleashed? It was pretty obvious to the rest of us what would happen if Brexit won the day - and it's happening :(

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lottieandmia · 11/10/2016 00:13

I agree - the hypocrisy is astounding. We need immigration. My daughter goes to an independent specialist school and her teachers are Polish and Spanish. They are brilliant with her and she's happy with them.

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ginghambox · 11/10/2016 00:33

Tough shit it is happpening . Stop fucking whining about it, and try and be positve.

AutumnColours9 · 11/10/2016 00:33

Yanbu. It's terrifying. Horrible road we seem to be headed down. Fed up of hearing brexiteers spouting daily mail crap at me. This includes my own family. It's such a mess they have made for us.

SomethingOnce · 11/10/2016 00:59

The OP starts a thread expressing her/his concerns for the future of a severely disabled DC, and the profound effect this is having on her/his emotional state, and someone weighs in with:

Brexit is the last gasp of the dying Empire. YANBU to fear dangerous, disastrous times for the poor and vulnerable.

And starts on about euthanasia.

A sensitive and measured response, I think we'll all agree.

(Or is the whole thread a sock puppet effort?)