DS 13, social medias & blocking me...

[Mysecretgarden]

My DS is 13 and spends more and more time on social media.
Recently I noticed and inappropriate post on his fb (porn) that a friend had posted on his wall.
I told him that it was not acceptable and to ask the friend not to post such things. Apparently it was a virus that did it.
But I have just noticed that he since has removed and blocked me from Facebook. I find it quite upsetting.
I have not been monitoring his use of social media closely. I do not snoop on his phone. This is however not helping to restore my trust.
AIBU to ask him to re-instate me as a friend?

Fair enough Bowiefan, I have to say I caught DSD1 cyber bullying after it had happened to her and I wiped the floor with her. Cut off her phone contract and banned internet access. I wasn't implying your sons would cyber bully, I realised my original post might have come across that way and it wasn't meant to. I was so frustrated dealing with these parents who literally couldn't have given a shiny shite that their kids were telling DSDs to go and kill themselves and that they were worthless/slutty (they're 12 and 13!!!)/a waste of organs. They couldn't have cared less, school and the police didn't care. It was gutting. As was finding DSD1 doing it, I was devastated and absolutely livid!

My 2 girls are for the moment too young at 7 and 4 thankfully. But when they are old enough to go online we will certainly be checking up on them! There have been too many cases where teenagers have been victims of online grooming; I wouldn't want to take the risks.
And I would hate to think of them being bullied online as well. I was bullied and there's nothing funny about it.

AyeOKThen

No worries, I understood what you were saying! I'd be livid with DS1 and DS2 if I found they'd been cyberbullying. Especially as they themselves know how easy it is to become a victim of nasty people and how hard it can be sometimes to fit in (they weren't born here). If I found them bullying I'd go nuclear. But then I've never been one of those people who automatically believes my child over everyone else. If someone came to me and said my DS1 had been bullying their kid, I'd be on DS1 like a ton of bricks straight away.

My DS saw a video on DD's insta (just swearing, nothing bad), he showed me and so she blocked him
Cos I told her off!! Now I have lost my spy. She has 2 accounts and this was the 'joke' one. I think virtually impossible to know everything that teens are doing on SM, but if I suspect badness I will look at her phone. I have bored her rigid with the 'no nudes, no posting anything you wouldn't want your grandma to see - yeah sure!' Stuff. She's a good girl really and I often see messages come through on her phone and never seen anything bad. I'm friends with her on FB & her main insta, but there snapchat where I think they mostly congregate.

Viruses don't work like that. Silly boy. Were you aware that he is able to prevent you seeing his posts even if you are his friend? If I were you I would be checking his phone regularly and if he won't let you, the Wifi password is your friend.