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AIBU to be upset at partner

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PassTheCake82 · 09/10/2016 17:54

My partner has booked flights to visit a good friend abroad - I'll be 30 weeks preggers at the time. When he first asked if I'd mind, he said it would just be a couple of days - i.e. the weekend so of course I said I didn't mind at all.

However, he is now going for 5 days and I'm a bit upset that he is happy to be away for as long as this. I'm not angry or pissed off at him, just a wee bit sad that he's okay with being away that long. AIBU?

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wigglesrock · 09/10/2016 22:14

Surely the whole point to posting on an anonymous forum is to get a detached viewpoint.

You're worried about your pregnancy, you feel a bit shite, it's a prearranged trip when you have over two months or more left in your pregnancy. Feeling sad that your partner is staying a few days more it's a bit of an overreaction.

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Neaders · 09/10/2016 22:28

yabu, but i totally get it. My DH went on a stag when DD was 5 weeks old and i HATED him for it!!! i couldnt go on the hen as id had an emergency section and was still experiencing pp bleeding. Fuck i could have killed him!!! but with hindsight i realised i was being a tad precious..!
Take the few days off work and go spend time with you family /friends.. go to a spa, treat yourself - it may be your last chance for a very long time!!!! good luck xx

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coolaschmoola · 09/10/2016 22:32

Wonders if knows Minis

My DH spent the last 28 weeks of my pregnancy overseas. I was living alone in Germany with the dog.

In the nicest possible way, you are being both unreasonable and a bit silly. Five days? It's nothing in the grand scheme of things.

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coolaschmoola · 09/10/2016 22:34

PS - he was in a war zone being shot at and I literally didn't know if he was ever coming back. Your dh is going on a five day jolly... Hmm

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missm0use · 09/10/2016 23:17

YANBU - when I was 30 pregnant I wouldn't want my partner to be away for 5 days. Yes it is hormones making you feel like that - doesn't make it any less valid if a reason to want your partner to be there to support you! Xx

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Amethyst81 · 09/10/2016 23:54

YABU but I do understand why. Make the best of it and get plenty of treats in, meals and films you like and invite some mates around for a girls night in. The time will pass quickly and I would enjoy the time to myself.

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MarcelineTheVampire · 10/10/2016 06:45

Paul I don't know about you but I was a hormonal wreck throughout my pregnancy - i was sometimes ridiculously unreasonable because I was struggling.

Pretty much dismissing someone's concerns over miscarriage is mean, particularly given that AF had experienced it- I agree with what AF said but when someone's already having a hard time why would you kick them whilst they are down?

I said OP was BU but, who knew, you can be realistic and sympathetic.

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Bulbasaur · 10/10/2016 07:01

YANBU to feel that way, if you're upset you're entitled to those feelings (hormones or not Wink). It sucks to feel stuck at home while your partner gets to go out and have fun. Wave him off happily and have a fun weekend to yourself, even if it's netflix and whatever you're craving.

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NavyandWhite · 10/10/2016 07:14

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ConvincingLiar · 10/10/2016 07:20

I wouldn't have minded. If this is your first baby it makes sense to do things while you still can. It is possible to have trips away when you have a baby at home, but it's harder for the one left behind. It's highly unlikely you'll need him for anything at that stage in your pregnancy.

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