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Sudden inexplicable obsession

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holeinyourhead · 05/10/2016 19:35

I have suddenly been obsessing about Oasis and Liam Gallagher in particular. Been going on for a week now. I can't stop listening to their music as if I am hearing it for the first time. I have been following Liam on Twitter and scouring the internet for photographs and nuggets of information about a possible reunion of the band. I was a fairly moderate fan at the time and kind of thought he was sexy back in the day but was well aware of what a complete tool he was/is as well so why this, why now? It's utter fantasy all this, I'm ashamed of myself. I can't seem to stop fantasising about what he would be like in bed and how he might seduce me, what his house is like, what his girlfriend is like. Pathetic. It's totally preoccupying my daily routine at the moment, all I want to do is play Oasis at top volume, bring it up in conversation wherever possible and endlessly stare at photos of Liam looking moody and gorgeous. I'm embarrassed to admit it, I wouldn't tell anyone I know about this. I am not an obsessive type normally. I don't have time for this kind of thing, I am a busy middle aged mother. Is this a midlife crisis? I am happily married, with a very busy job and social life. I love and still fancy my husband, we have a good sex life. I don't want for much. What the hell is happening to me? AIBU to be neglecting my kids' homework for a late-stage obsession about a 90s rock n roll star?! Please tell me this will all be over soon!

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HeyNannyNanny · 06/10/2016 18:30

Oh Gawd, I had about 6 months where I was obsessed with Spike from Buffy Blush Blush Blush - as an adult!
It was hideous, I used to cry about him.

Fortunately, I'm over it now. But it was intense

BummyMummy77 · 06/10/2016 19:06

rainbunny - since we've been ttc and I've been more aware of my cycles I've noticed the same! Around ovulation I turn in to a very unchoosy tramp! (In my head obviously!!! Confused)

The80sweregreat · 06/10/2016 19:18

Noel seems 'nicer ' than Liam. He was interviewed by Sara cox once and said about being seen at the fountain studios where x factor was been filmed. Someone shouted 'oi, you Noel? ' yeah, he replied to a young girl about 17 ' me dad really likes you! ' she said! He was laughing about it! I prefer the high flying birds. Whats the story is one of my favouite albums though, it is still good, but i didnt fancy either of them really.
I had to google Dan smith, he isnt bad!

Rainbunny · 06/10/2016 19:32

BummyMummy77 - yep, we're ttc too and I only started noticing this since we started ttc. I'm in my late thirties and I feel like a dirty old woman trying not to stare at random men who suddenly seem so attractive to me...

BummyMummy77 · 06/10/2016 19:40

Another thing a friend pointed out is that I buy very sequiny and loud clothes when I'm ovulating. If I go shopping around Aunt Flo it's all baggy and grey! Grin

Rainbunny · 06/10/2016 19:42

Mother nature clearly wants us to maximise our mating potential!

BummyMummy77 · 06/10/2016 19:53

Hmm I'm not sure any of the sequiny things I buy would do anything but put people off haha!

This is going to sound awful but I always start getting all sweaty under the collar about men who have lots of kids. Like the poor guys have 'GOOD SPERM' tattooed on their heads. Blush

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holeinyourhead · 07/10/2016 16:48

Thank you for that wasonthelist! Really made me laugh!

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QueenLizIII · 07/10/2016 16:51

I hate the way that you are so sarcastic
And you're not very bright
You think that everything you've done's fantastic
Your music's shite it keeps me up all night

Foxysoxy01 · 07/10/2016 16:58

I have to admit to a little bit of an obsession with Tom Burke!
He is the most beautiful man ever in war and peace I think I melted.

I am over the peak though I think and things are getting a little more normal now (I can go about an hour without indecent thoughts Grin )

MaQueen · 07/10/2016 17:16

Oh I went through something very similar about 4 years ago...overnight became obsessed with Richard Armitage.

Wasted whole days on the long running RA threads on here, and watching all the many, many links to YouTube clips (favourite one was clips of him in Spooks set to 'Sexy Back' by Justin Timberlake.

Then I eagerly sat through 6 hours of Sparkhouse, just so I could moon over him playing a scruffy farm labourer in grubby overalls and wearing a beenie...I might have watched it twice I fantasised about me cooking him a hearty supper for when he came in from milking, all sweaty and stubbled jawed...

I ordered off Amazon the 3 series of Spooks that he was in, and North & South and pretty much watched them on a loop...

Then suddenly it all just...faded away. Quick as that, RA just nece a tall dkinny guy with a rather large nose. At about the same time I realised I was peri menopausal, too.

It's bleddy hormones buggering about with you.

Grumpyoldblonde · 07/10/2016 18:57

Well, I fancy Ed Balls

jessica29054 · 07/10/2016 19:00

Me too grumpy

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Grumpyoldblonde · 07/10/2016 19:16

Jessica
Me and my man Ed are going to have wonderful weekends walking our Labradors arm in arm, while singing silly little songs an sharing naff jokes and heading back to our cottage to sit in front of the fire with red wine and then the lights dim, and then...

pandarific · 07/10/2016 19:23

Hahaha. Aww OP, you have the curse of the random fandom crush, completely out of step with the rest of the world. Flowers I've been there - most Danish people have.

Check archiveofourown.org for some fanfic?

I'm going through this with (of all things) teenage mutant ninja turtles. Stupid film got me all reinvested. Oh well!

pandarific · 07/10/2016 19:31

Oh my god not Danish people! Fannish people! Blush

Maybe we're all Danish?

SatsukiKusakabe · 07/10/2016 20:28

That's funny about it being hormone-related - my crush coincided with me stopping breastfeeding, like I was preparing to mate again with some indie actor who wasn't anything special now I think about it

Once I had a crush on a character in a book, if you really want to talk crazy.

QuiltedAloeVera · 07/10/2016 20:32

I'm going to use the OP as the text for this year's Janet and Roy.

SatsukiKusakabe · 07/10/2016 20:32

War and peace was my downfall too, foxysoxy

And it is weirder not to have had a thing for Spike as far as I'm concerned heynannynanny

toomuchtooold · 07/10/2016 21:31

This is what you need. No need to thank me Grin

Meeep · 07/10/2016 21:39

I've done this twice in the last two years with two different actresses.
I've never been interested in any celebrity before in my life. It's awfully out of character for me. Celebrity crushes aren't for middle aged women are they?
I've started to wonder if I'm secretly gay. And a teenager? A gay teenager? It's very confusing.

MaQueen · 07/10/2016 21:49

I've always known when I'm ovulating because I suddenly notice men's physiques much more...it's obvious I'm subconsciously checking if they're suitable breeding material, or not Hmm

DeadGood · 07/10/2016 21:56

limerence

LadyTmalia · 08/10/2016 11:23

I'm like this, currently I go to bed dreaming of the life Andrew Lincoln and I have together (it helps me sleep okay!! :o ) I have youtubed all of his comic con appearances, cried over Love Actually and tried to buy Teachers and This life.

Its weird, My dh and I watched all 6 season of Walking Dead recently, in about 3 months. It was after we finished watching I developed the crush.

He only lives about 10 miles from me ... Im not that insane though. (yet)