It's normal to look at the toilet paper, after you wipe, isn't it?

[MissWLopez]

My son is at nursery. He started in January - he's almost 4.

He's fully potty trained. However, when he had just learnt to wipe, nursery still helped him. We had no issues, he knew to wipe until he was clean, etc.

Then he began to just continuously wipe - went through a whole roll of paper, etc. or he just left himself dirty, after 1 wipe. I spoke to his Key Worker, who told me that she had told him to stop looking at the toilet paper after each wipe this was then causing an issue, as he'd take 30 mins in the loo, using up a whole toilet paper, or he'd need changing as soon as he got home (due to dirty underwear) she said that she won't encourage 'bad toilet manners' surely that isn't bad manners!? No one is even around! It just seems the most sensible thing to do.

So, tell me, it's not unreasonable to look at the toilet paper, after a wipe, is it!?

It's perfectly normal to inspect afterwards. I would remind him that it's a good idea to make sure he's finished doing his business properly before he starts wiping. Less messy that way.

One of my colleagues inspected his 'doings' down the loo each time and it's a good job he did as he saw that they were putty coloured. A trip to the GP confirmed that he had somehow got hepatitis. It's highly infectious so he was off work for weeks on end before it cleared up with antibiotics.

I have a packet of wet wipes and a pack of nappy sacks by each loo - everyone in the family wet wipes, looking at the wet wipe each time to see if they can stop wiping and then puts dirty wet wipes in nappy sack and into the bin.

The above is a sentence I never ever thought I would write.

I'd tell her straight OP, confusing him. Sounds like she finds toilet duties intolerable. I think you are going to have to re educate him, at home.
You did a good job the first time. You can do it again.
Of course he needs to look at the toilet paper, the woman is a fool 😡
Arse Fairies 😂😂😂

I'd be pretty annoyed.
You did a good job training him at home and she has now confused him.

Yes, you look at the paper to see if clean/any nasties there.

The whole notion of 'toilet manners' is silly.
You poo/wee, wipe, wash and flush. open window as needed.

I feel quite irrationally angry on your (and your son's) behalf, OP! It seems so bizarre to say checking the loo roll to make sure you're clean is 'bad manners' but walking round with a potentially shitty, smelly arse is...what? The height of sophistication?

Nearly had a heart attack a few weeks ago - went to the toilet in the middle of thr night and had some stomach pain and then did a loose sloppy blood red poo! Fuck! Cancer. Death. Oh hang on... I had beetroot for dinner.

I thought one of my dogs was dying once when I picked up her poo and saw red lumps. Then I realised they were lumps of Babybel wax from DS1 not bothering to put his rubbish in the bin. Both dogs will eat the wax if they get half a chance!

I'm also angry on behalf of all the children this woman is confusing in the course of her work. She needs retraining about this.

Also, what happened about the campaign against 'flushable' wipes ? No change as far as I know.

Could do without this addition tbh after the time mines came out red and I rushed to hospital, only to realise after an "inspection" from the doctor that I'd eaten a whole bag of beetroot crisps for lunch and was totally fine

At least I have always realised before seeking medical help!

Of couse you look to check that your clean. Someone really needs to have a word with the Key Worker as this kind of squeamishness is ridiculous.

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WTF? Strange woman. Of course you look or how do you know you are clean? Plus if you don't look, you would never know if you were bleeding or anything.

This thread has reminded me of a conversation I had with my then-boyfriend as a teenager.

I mentioned how iron supplements turn your poo very dark. He laughed at me and said 'how do you know what colour your poo is?!'

At the time I was v embarrassed and didn't want to say 'because I check the loo roll after wiping' so muttered some excuse and changed the subject.

Now I realise he was the shitty-arsed prick one doing it wrong! I feel validated, after 20-odd years of bafflement!

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