It's normal to look at the toilet paper, after you wipe, isn't it?

[MissWLopez]

My son is at nursery. He started in January - he's almost 4.

He's fully potty trained. However, when he had just learnt to wipe, nursery still helped him. We had no issues, he knew to wipe until he was clean, etc.

Then he began to just continuously wipe - went through a whole roll of paper, etc. or he just left himself dirty, after 1 wipe. I spoke to his Key Worker, who told me that she had told him to stop looking at the toilet paper after each wipe this was then causing an issue, as he'd take 30 mins in the loo, using up a whole toilet paper, or he'd need changing as soon as he got home (due to dirty underwear) she said that she won't encourage 'bad toilet manners' surely that isn't bad manners!? No one is even around! It just seems the most sensible thing to do.

So, tell me, it's not unreasonable to look at the toilet paper, after a wipe, is it!?

[RubbishMantra]

You have to look. How else would you know if you had the fortuitous "dry wipe", or the irksome "wet wipe", which takes much more time, effort and loo paper?

We were discussing this the other day, and the males involved in the discussion seemed to be more prone to the messier "wet wipe"*. I wonder why that is?

*not to be confused with packets of wet wipes, which I have a stash of in my bog for dealing with non-dry wipe days.

[SynchronisedCatsBumming]

I wouldn't fancy washing the key workers knickers in that case if she doesn't look to check she's clean. I'd also stand down wind of her at the end of the day OP

I'd have a word with the manager, they will be the first to complain if he manages to block their toilet with all the paper!

[IlPorcupinoNilSodomyEst]

Queen

[OhSoggyBiscuit]

She would hate my toilet habits. I look in the loo to see my output then wipe!!!

Bet she's the one leaving great big skidmarks on the side of the loo and doesn't clean up after herself

[Beeziekn33ze]

Wet wipes, wrap in looroll and nonchalantly drop in the bin!

[gintymarlowe]

i can't believe the key worker would be concerned about something so minor. how odd.

[milkshakeandmonstermunch]

Um...yes! I always look at the paper whether it's number 1 or number 2. No skidmarks in this house! I always check what's in the pan too.

[Hidingtonothing]

GardenGeek would a pack of nappy bags in the loo help with the wipe dilemma?

[NZmonkey]

Spent the weekend trying to teach DSD she had to do this as her knickers were terribly dirty each day due to lack of wiping. Read your title OP and thought oh no her mother is going to kill me for teaching her wrong. Very relieved now.

[Imnotaslimjim]

Bonkers lady, sounds like she must walk round with a dirty arse!

As to wet wipes, if you get toilet ones, they're designed to be flushed but the pack suggests no more than 2 at a time.

[dun1urkin]

I always look irrespective of poo or wee. An exboyfriend didn't check the paper, I was baffled. I kept asking him how he knew his bum was clean. Apparently he could 'feel' that it was clean.
I have no idea why we had this conversation, by the way, it wasn't a result of any direct observations

[Sweetpotatoaddict]

YANBU.
Good grief, she'll never get the pleasure of a double ghosty poo......
(Disappears round the ubend, unseen and nothing to wipe either).
Left wondering if it actually happened or not

[senua]

Bowel health is very important and bring squeamish about seeing your own waste means potential health problems are missed or diagnosed late (which can make things so much worse). Children shouldn't be taught that looking is wrong as it creates hang-ups later in life that could have serious consequences.

This.
Have words with the Key Worker.

[Footle]

Don't flush wet wipes even if the packet says you can. They are creating huge problems in the sewers. 'Chaos down there' in fact. Nappy sacks are the way to go.

[FleurThomas]

Could you tell her to mind her own business and let you toilet traij your son as you see fit?

[ineedamoreadultieradult]

I clicked on this thread to make sure I wasn't the only one who did look as I suddenly thought maybe I was some sort of deviant but I'm glad to see we are all looking.

[hominin]

Haha glad to see I'm not the only one that does this.

I actually live in Germany and most toilets here have a shit shelf so people can look at their poop afterwards too. Could do without this addition tbh after the time mines came out red and I rushed to hospital, only to realise after an "inspection" from the doctor that I'd eaten a whole bag of beetroot crisps for lunch and was totally fine

[TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth]

Came to say the same as footle: even though the moist toilet wiped are allegedly flushable - whilst other wipes definitely aren't - don't flush. Thet take ages to break down, and block drains. Even that ridiculous quilted toilet roll (seriously, who wants to wipe their arse on a duvet?) Causes problems.

OP, tell your DS to ignore that teacher and check the paper.

[Imnotaslimjim]

I stand corrected! I personally use reusable cloth wipes now but if I start using disposable ones again, I'll bag and bin.

[PausingFlatly]

Whole MNHQ thread on the problem of non-flushable "flushable" wipes: MNHQ here: what do you think about manufacturers marketing wipes as 'flushable'?

Apparently 70% of sewer blockages caused by misuse, are caused by wet wipes.

[FeliciaJollygoodfellow]

What a strange woman she is.

[YelloDraw]

I actually live in Germany and most toilets here have a shit shelf so people can look at their poop afterwards too.

Oh I always wondered if the shit showed were actually meant for looking at your poo or if that was just a coincidence resulting from some other design reason.

Of course you need to look at the toilet paper after each wipe to see if you're clean.

I also have a look at the poo to see if it's lumpy/hard/runny etc.

Nearly had a heart attack a few weeks ago - went to the toilet in the middle of thr night and had some stomach pain and then did a loose sloppy blood red poo! Fuck! Cancer. Death. Oh hang on... I had beetroot for dinner.