To wonder why I'm being so jealous and silly about this

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Just been to dinner with close friend. She is engaged and very happy, I'm single, a few years younger (23) and sort of looking for someone.

I get my fair share of male attention but am fairly insecure about my looks. She is very pretty and we look similar (we're related), I'm attractive I'd say. (On a good day!)

Anyway as we were paying Italian waiter had a little bit of a joke with me and I laughed it off. He then came up to our table again to get bill and turned fully around to my friend and said "may I just say you are very beautiful" and she blushed/stuttered etc. I of course immediately agreed and said she was etc etc but a bit of me felt a tad jealous and silly I don't know why! I think it was the way he didn't even try and include me in the compliment, just felt a tad contrived somehow as if he was trying to make a point?! Anyone know what I mean?! I'm drunk-

This is unbelievable.

He was a waiter. Fgs.

The only stupid thing you did was post on AIBU, lovely.

vicious here.

He probably didn't know who or what he was flirting with.
Some waiters are on autopilot. If you'd had a cctv of the episode, you will probably find he was talking to the table!
I'm sure you are both as equally as attractive- but different.

Is there a better area to showcase how shallow and inane one can be ?

Grad role in banking/finance - now that's awesome. I know how competitive those jobs are.

shallow and inane or insecure and vulnerable?

Fine line.

AnyFucker are you suggesting I am shallow and inane ?

I bet he knew what he was doing all right. It's a way of putting someone down. He must have known it'd be hurtful. He could so easily have said the same thing to you and left the friend out. It's very subtle but it's a put down. I wouldn't take it to heart. Some men just get off on putting women down.

It just maybe be me but I think the waiter was being very unprofessional.

People go out for meals to have a nice time and not be chatted up.

I am calling your subject matter shallow and inane. That's a lot of blarney about how men find you attractive and how put out you were that some random found your cousin more attractive than you.

When I go out with my girl friends blokes don't get a look in. We certainly would not entertain the idea that an outing could be so utterly ruined by whether the waiter fancied one of us, or one more than the other.

It's OK to not give men and what they think of you a thought at all

Imagine how much happier you might feel if you tried that

All I can think is how inappropriate of the waiter to say that! It's bloody sleazy! You were paying customers and it's not his job to mention anyone's looks!

OP You can't win 'em all 😉
He's not important, his assessment of women's looks doesn't matter.

Is this a reverse?