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AIBU or is this Facebook woman massively entitled?

78 replies

cityrat79 · 03/10/2016 16:37

We have an old Maclaren buggy with a sticky brake but otherwise fine with a raincover. I advertised it on our local selling pages on Facebook for free to the first person who wanted it. After two or three people turning it down, a woman said she'd take it if I gave her our address.

I asked her to confirm a time first, and she wouldn't. I told her roughly what area we were in (within a 300m radius), and she still wouldn't confirm a time, so I left it, thinking I'd take it to charity the next day.

Then she did confirm a time, I gave her our address, all well and good.

Then the questions started:

"Dose (sic) it recline?" - No, sorry

"Dose (sic) it fold up really small?" Unsure what she meant by really small, so I told her again the exact model of buggy and suggested she googled it.

"Y, u never folded it up?"

I said that I was offering it for free and she could take it or leave it but I didn't have time to get into the exact specifics (I was breastfeeding at the time, out and about in town).

All well and good, and then she messaged to say she'd be late. I said that was fine, we were in until 6, no problem at all.

She then asked me if I could meet her halfway (a 20-minute walk - with me presumably pushing the baby in a buggy and wheeling the other buggy alongside me!), and I said no, sorry.

She told me that she was doing a 40 minute walk with two children and she thought I was being unreasonable.

Surely I'm not! I was trying to do something nice for a neighbour and offer a free buggy...

I replied saying I don't need the hassle and the reason I offered it for free was to get rid of it quickly, and if she doesn't want it, I can take it to the charity shop. My husband now thinks she knows where we live and will probably throw rocks at our house. (Not really.)

I'm half expecting her within the next half an hour... if you don't hear from me again, I'm probably her new maidservant.

Sorry for the rant.

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Mrsemcgregor · 03/10/2016 16:39

It doesn't surprise me, people can be so entitled and dickish. What a twat.

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cityrat79 · 03/10/2016 16:45

Oh God, she's now messaging me for directions.

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formerbabe · 03/10/2016 16:46

I've said it before, I'll say it again...

No good deed goes unpunished.

mycatstares · 03/10/2016 16:47

Not sure what her spelling has to do with any of it?

She was being a bit rude though.

Mrsemcgregor · 03/10/2016 16:47

Leave it outside your house and say you are out and if she wants it just to take it!!

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cityrat79 · 03/10/2016 16:47

This is despite me giving her my address twice, and making sure she knows where she's going because it's a new-build and mobile reception is dreadful, and it's not always up to date on satnavs / Google Maps.

She's asking me really useless things like, "do i have to walk past the school"? (Obviously it depends on the direction you're coming from...)

Lesson learned: never do anything nice.

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JenLindleyShitMom · 03/10/2016 16:47

Your mistake was putting it on for free. It seems to attract all the entitled bastards who expect the world for nothing. If you'd asked for a tenner then you would have sifted out all the freebie takers.

JellyBelli · 03/10/2016 16:48

Tell her she has the internet so could google directions. Then go out shopping.

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 · 03/10/2016 16:48

Send your dh to the door with it!! (while you hide on the understairs cupboard)

2kids2dogsnosense · 03/10/2016 16:48

TBH - even if she arrived the doorstep, after all of that palaver I would tell her I'd already got rid of it!

LurkingHusband · 03/10/2016 16:49

Personally, my answer to the first question would be:

"Sorry, it's been taken."

Would have saved you a lot of time.

Only1scoop · 03/10/2016 16:49

One of life's takers

JenLindleyShitMom · 03/10/2016 16:51

Also, don't ever, ever say sorry when you're selling something. Yore offering an item for sale. They're not doing you a favour. Don't apologise. It sets the tone for the transaction. (Some people do this as habit, unlearn it)

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cityrat79 · 03/10/2016 16:51

I've told her to use Google Maps (and told her how to put the address in so it's recognised, as it is a new area).

She's saying that it's telling her to go the wrong way. How she knows which way is the wrong way when she doesn't know where she's going mystifies me.

I would send my DH to the door but he's not home from work yet. Had I not already told her I'd be in until 6, I would definitely leave it outside the front door.

I bet she invites herself in for dinner. And then complains she doesn't like it.

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ParadiseCity · 03/10/2016 16:52

I'd start pretending you don't actually live there you are just staying with relatives. So there's no point in the rock throwing then...

BillSykesDog · 03/10/2016 16:53

Erm. Yes I think YABU. If she's walking 40 minutes with two kids for a free buggy the poor woman is obviously skint. I can see why she wouldn't want to do an 80 minute round trip only to get there and find that she can't fit it in her flat or use it with her baby so it's useless. She might not be computer literate enough to google and often the specs are a bit opaque online anyway. I think they were fairly reasonable questions TBH. And as for confirming a time, she might have had to sort out a baby sitter for a younger one or swap a work shift or anything. It's not like she was asking you to throw in your firstborn with the pram.

HeyNannyNanny · 03/10/2016 16:54

Just don't mention your holiday home in Mexico or sell her your garden shed, OP.

secretly loves a good pisstaker

SleepFreeZone · 03/10/2016 16:54

Pmsl. I would have stopped answering her messages about two days ago 🙊

maggiethemagpie · 03/10/2016 16:54

I had this before, I put a nappy changing table up on freecycle, woman came and took it and didn't even say thank you. The only thing I was wanting was a thanks! I messaged the person later on just saying 'Thank you!' and they got the message, but I couldn't leave it unsaid.

Agree that freecycle etc does attract some entitled/ungrateful folk, although just as many are grateful so i'd still use

JellyBelli · 03/10/2016 16:57

If you're skint you take the free buggy, say thank you and use it until a more suitable one appears.

Jigglypuffsinging · 03/10/2016 16:57

Not the same thing at all, but I mentioned on FB that my little one doesn't play with her expensive dollshouse, as much as the cheaper, plastic Barbie one. Immediately a school mum asked if I could sell it to her.

Had the same thing with another school mum. I posted a status sayin I was disillusioned with my jewellery making, and was having a real crisis of confidence. This mum asks if I could gift my stock to her, as she has a low income (she always says this, despite getting DLA for both her children, and squandering it - she forgets all her friends can see).

Thing is it cost me a fortune, my stock is worth loads, and I have far less disposable income than her.

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cityrat79 · 03/10/2016 16:57

Don't get the Mexico or garden shed reference, sorry!

She has asked me for my phone number (which I have declined to give - partly because there's no reception here anyway)... and now says she'll be here in 3 minutes. Stay tuned.

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HeyNannyNanny · 03/10/2016 16:59

Cityrat - ooo you're missing out on a trea. Search it. Mexican House Thief is one of my favourite Mumsnet entitled classics

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cityrat79 · 03/10/2016 17:01

It gets better. She says she's near number 66. Where are we?

I say (again) we're number 64.

She says, where is that compared to 66.

I say... erm... next door. Stay tuned.

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pictish · 03/10/2016 17:01

What a pain in the arse. Has she turned up then?