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to keep quiet about this or should I tip her off?

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SecondTimeIsBetter · 02/10/2016 16:12

Work colleague / friend is getting married on the the weekend, big do costing a fortune at a popular high end venue. I've just found out via a family member that the venue was inspected by environmental health last week and scored 0 - urgent action required. Head chef has apparently already gone, possibly sacked. The score has not yet been published on the food standards website but due to the nature of the venue there is no doubt it will be big news when the story breaks as they host a national team
I don't want to say anything but I am worried that if the story breaks a day or two before the wedding then it's going to be worse than if she found out now and had time to talk to the venue and seek reassurance.
On the other hand it could take longer than a week for the news to break by which time she will be married and away on her honeymoon!
Does anyone have any experience of how long it takes for the score to be published after the date of inspection?

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SecondTimeIsBetter · 02/10/2016 18:22

I'm not going to identify the venue, but you are way off the mark!

The staff at the venue have all been informed and word is spreading fast locally, family member has close connection to staff there. Friend not local to the venue.

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Janey50 · 02/10/2016 18:23

I was under the impression that a catering business would not be allowed to continue if they had a zero rating!

GeorgeTheThird · 02/10/2016 18:25

I'd keep quiet. I agree it will be really clean by now!

Shinyshoes2 · 02/10/2016 18:30

For all those saying they can't trade if the score is zero . Yes they can . The local Chinese takeaway near me got a zero and is still trading
I wouldn't tell her
I wouldn't be eating the food either regardless of how much they've paid for it

Shinyshoes2 · 02/10/2016 18:31

I don't think it'd majd the ' news ' either . I only found this out because I often look at the food standards website or scores on the doors website

SecondTimeIsBetter · 02/10/2016 18:38

It depends on the reason for the 0 it doesn't automatically man they can't trade.
I've just found out that the certificate and window sticker are issued on the day of inspection and have to be displayed immediately.

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BillSykesDog · 02/10/2016 18:41

If it's not one of the national football or rugby stadiums the press won't be interested. I doubt that many people locally are gossiping about food hygiene ratings. You're talking up unnecessary drama out of this. Don't tell her.

SecondTimeIsBetter · 02/10/2016 18:47

Interesting how you equate "national" to "English".

Yes people are talking about it locally because many people are reliant on working there.

I wouldn't want my wedding day tainted by people commenting on the 0 food hygiene score displayed at the entrance, ironically one of the reasons friend picked the venue was the food!

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QuackDuckQuack · 02/10/2016 18:53

The requirement to display the score is a Welsh one I think.

nannybeach · 02/10/2016 18:54

Surely with a score this low, the place would be immediately closed down, I frankly, wouldnt say anything you are a guest, it not your job to "police" the reception venue.

Shinyshoes2 · 02/10/2016 18:54

Don't worry about it it's her worry not yours . If she finds out let her deal with it . If she DOSEN'T find out then all is good

Manumission · 02/10/2016 18:54

People get married at sports venues? Isn't that quite a niche thing for die hard sports fans anyway?

Shinyshoes2 · 02/10/2016 18:55

England dosent have to display the score immediately . Wales have to

Shinyshoes2 · 02/10/2016 18:56

It's not your job to police it anyway
Just don't eat the food
Say you have a poorly tummy

BillSykesDog · 02/10/2016 19:02

Because I doubted that the other stadiums would be particularly newsworthy. Except perhaps the Principality stadium. In the second post though I deliberately referred to 'national' to include Wales, Scotland, NI and even ROI.

I wouldn't want my wedding day tainted by people commenting on the 0 food hygiene score displayed at the entrance

I think you're overstating the importance of this. Not that sure many people would notice or that it would particularly 'taint' the day unless, oooh, I don't know, a bit of a gossip who got a kick out of delivering bad news and causing upset made a huge deal out of it.

SecondTimeIsBetter · 02/10/2016 19:04

People have jumped to the assumption that it is a sports venue / stadium. I said they often host a national team!!! I have also said it is a large venue that holds more than one wedding at a time and has accommodation!!!

Scotland and Wales require scores to be displayed.

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MrsMarigold · 02/10/2016 19:05

Mention it to her and she can go in and negotiate a reduced price and be sure the place is hygienic before if they are re inspected.

WinterIsHereJon · 02/10/2016 19:13

Quick google search of the info you've provided suggests Mar Hall?

ajandjjmum · 02/10/2016 19:13

I can't think why you would tell her.

It's too late for her to do anything about it. They venue will already be working hard to rectify the problems (presumably), so her calling in advance would make no differenc. The knowledge would certainly blight the run up to her wedding.

Leave it alone.

confuugled1 · 02/10/2016 19:36

I would definitely want to know.

Having said that, when I was doing tasting dishes for our wedding reception, me, dh and my mum (who were all doing the tasting) got food poisoning after the tasting. We'd only eaten at that one place together, met there and went separate ways from there.

We cancelled and went elsewhere.

If you know, she should know and have a chance to ring up to find out what the hell is happening and what they are going to do to ensure that things are better beforehand.

Actually, the venue should have rung her up on the day they found out and told her, along with what their plans are to ensure that they will be ok on the day.

I'd also be tempted to ring the EH department and get advice from them on whether they think it will be ok, when they are going to go back to check them (if they go back a day or two before the wedding and find that things haven't improved enough that they close the venue down, they will have a much bigger problem than if they've done a bit of ringing around beforehand to find out if there is anywhere else available).

SecondTimeIsBetter · 02/10/2016 20:18

Mar Hall looks lovely but it's not the wedding venue.

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TheTyrannyOfMAGENTA · 02/10/2016 21:01

I would tell her purely so she can get reassurance and ask when the re inspection is going to be ( soon if it was a zero) and that they aren't going to be shut down the day before leaving her with no venue.

SecondTimeIsBetter · 03/10/2016 08:08

I've been thinking about it all night and have decided I'm going to tell her today so that she can speak to the venue. She is going to be staying there the day before the wedding and is more than likely to see the sticker on the door then anyway even if the press haven't run the story by then, I would rather she be prepared.

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Only1scoop · 03/10/2016 08:26

It's not going to necessarily hit the press and be some huge feature....I wouldn't tell her.

callmeadoctor · 03/10/2016 08:31

That sounds a really mean thing to do to tell her (you obviously were always going to from what you have argued on here). She worn be able to change venue now, and the place will be as clean as it ever could be now! What possibly could she gain from knowing? (Never look at the signs on the door personally, I would be too excited about the event. If I was the bride, I would think you were really mean to tell me, when there is nothing I can do about it!

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