I earn more than DH in the 3 days a week I do, than he does in 5 days. He can't even equal it by doing 6 days so we stick to 5 for him. Which means I'm the breadwinner and also DDs primary carer, which I know upsets DH a lot, his wages cover the 3 days a week DD is in Nursery. DD is 15m.
DH works for a major supermarket retailer, he's technically a supervisor but doesn't get paid much more (5p extra per hour) for the extra responsibilites, and often ends up only "supervising" to cover the department managers breaks or when they're off on AL.
He apparently loves his job though. But i hate it. In the two years he's worked for them they cancelled a weeks AL the day before it started as they were apparently short staffed, they made him take only 10 days PL when he's entitled to 4 weeks because the manager of his department flew off to the Caribbean, and there was apparently no-one else to cover him and they've also asked him to work the week between Christmas and New Year, despite him specifically asking in September for it off because DDs Nursery is closed so I need him to look after her for those 3 days - I could book it off but he feels he doesn't get enough time with her as it is, and this seemed the perfect opportunity for him to spend some time with her. I am happy for him to work his contract 10 hours and a few extras on the days I'm not working (he told his work this) but apparently he's needed.
He's contracted for 10 hours a week, but usually works between 35 and 40 hours a week, but often tell him he can only do hos contract 10 hours then call him and expect him to drop everything to go to work with less than an hours notice. He doesn't get paid if he's not working so although my wages cover everything bar childcare we do have a small amount of debt because of his hours being dropped randomly. We're only talking £100 or so, which gets cleared when his hours go up, but we get into debt again when they drop his hours.
Today I am at the final straw with his workplace. I am ill, I have a double ear infection in my right ear, and a inner ear and a sinus infection in my left ear and sinus. I am unable to look after DD on my own as I can't hear anything out of my right ear and have limited hearing in my left, I'm dizzy when I stand up and can't keep food down due to the Antibiotics I'm on.
DH has never ever been off sick, he always turns up for work on time with his uniform ironed (he does it every morning), and he's happy to cover his colleagues shifts if necessary even on other departments. He has never turned down a shift and regularly works Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights which are the busiest times for the shops and when no-one else will work.
He's doing a 9 hour shift tomorrow, and DD isn't due in Nursery until Tuesday, she is also ill with a cold/cough. So DH went in to ask for tomorrow off (work is a 10minute walk away).
Apparently they can't let him have the time off unless he has a doctors note for himself, they will not accept my one for my workplace, and even though his contract days are Tuesday and Wednesday they've told him he needs to be in tomorrow as usual at 6am. They've said as a good will gesture they'll let him leave an hour early if all his work is done. I'm sick of it, if he doesn't turn up that's gross misconduct and he could lose his job, which we don't want as although my wages cover the bills, DH likes to be in work and DD loves Nursery and has developed so much from being there.
DH is looking for another job, halfheartedly as he loves his workplace for some reason, and he can't drive which limits him to anything on a public transport route.
AIBU to think they are bastards unreasonable and need to treat their staff with more respect? and AIBU to be furious that I'm going to managing an active toddler for a minimum 9 hours tomorrow with no hearing and almost constant pain?