Weekends in our house tend to be busy.
On Sunday morning I normally take our DS2 to an event at 9am. DS2 has severe ASD and he looks forward to it every week. This week, I need to take DD somewhere for 9.30, so I asked DH if he could take DS to his thing. He said he would.
On Thursday he tells me that he has been invited out tonight, so will be staying in a town about 40 minutes from here, so he cant take DS any more, but can I take DS, then take DD to her thing, by which time he promises to be home. So DD will be late by about an hour, but I think the thing she is going to is flexible (have emailed to check).
I should also add that I had to change my plans with DD two weeks ago because he was so wasted after a night out he couldnt look after the boys. He has no off switch. Once he goes out he doesn't stop drinking.
We have been through a bit of a bad patch (he left for a few weeks) and so I think this is clouding my judgment, because I am trying to be reasonable and not lose my cool about stuff, but I am annoyed at what I feel is his selfish attitude, that he is more important than the family. I also worry that he either wont make it back on time, or will be so wasted he wont be capable of looking after DS2.
He is a good father and he works hard. I know he deserves a break but I can't work out why I am so annoyed about this. Actually I can, its because its always left down to me to sort stuff. I would never leave him with everything to do.
AIBU?