Alphabet, she knows I'd send one, I'm an organised person. I'm glad it's not just me who thinks it's odd.
It's 3am and I'm feeding my dd and bored so I will do what I said I wouldn't and do some more mil moaning.
I had a planned c-section. My husband told his parents when we had a date and that if they wanted to visit us in hospital to book the day after off as I might not be up to visitors sooner. Day before c-section they mention they will 'be in the area' (it's 1hr 20mins from their house - for them this is a massive trip) in case he 'needs them'. They also say they only have this day off and can't take the next off too as too short notice. They wouldn't be able to visit us in hospital the next evening as FIL doesn't like to travel do anything after work, mil doesn't drive and it would be a v short visit due to making it for visiting hours. Wtf! My husband came home from work after finding this out and was being all weird but eventually dropped it into conversation with a look of fear on his face. I just laughed. He said they used the expression 'no pressure'. He said he was more than happy to just not let them visit until the weekend. He really should have put his foot down at the time. I suppose it's quite telling that he chose to not upset his mum over potentially upsetting a 9 months pregnant wife. My husband and I over that evening and the day of the birth did keep saying 'no pressure' to each other then giggling so it did give us some entertainment. As it turned out I did feel up to visitors and they had a visit and it was nice.
She's just very very excited about being a 'grannie' she's insisting on being grannie (which I hate) rather than granny as it's her first grandchild. She has calmed down a little bit as she now let's other people hold the baby too at family meet ups. Everyone (her husband and daughters) were too scared to ask her to share for the first few visits! Very odd. My family are just so very different to my husband's.
Another example is it is very frowned upon to go on holiday when it is someone in the family's birthday, especially the parents. We have had to go on holiday at more expensive times of the year because if this. I could understand if it was a big bday or if there were children involved or something, but no, just regular adult ones. There has to be a family meal and there must be a lot of fuss over the cake/cake entrance. It's mad. My dad just sends a card and calls me up, that's all I want.
My husband and I have been discussing the c word. We've been together for 10 years but never spent Xmas morning together as we both prefer our own families and traditions. Now we have a child we are going to spend it together. I have suggested we have the morning together at home then drive to his parents house for lunch. He is worried this will set off a tradition and we'll be expected every year, even if he explains that not to be the case. His family spend get up at 6am ush (mil's insistence, only adults there), spend the day in pj's, eat a lot, don't drink and watch lots of Xmas tv. My family (for reference live too far away to drive on the day) stay in bed as long as any children allow, get dressed (I like to put on a nice but festive outfit), eat a lot, tv is banned for the day, lots of games and some full of food and drink snoozes on the sofa. Husband is worried that if I go to their Xmas that pil and sils will not relax etc. as I'd be there. They'd also have to cook very differently to their usual as I can't eat milk products (dd allergic through my milk) and there would be a lot of fuss made about this both in lead up and on the day, even though I'm more than happy to just skip the bread sauce, yorkshires etc. Basically no-one would relax for the whole day but they'd love to see dd I'm sure. I still think we should go...
Sorry, this is all just me blabbering on while bored in the middle of the night. I'll shut up now and no need to reply to my whinging.