Christmas parties with a newborn

[Stm2016]

My second baby is due mid-Nov (first born will be 3 in January) and my husband is already talking about his work Christmas do's in December, one of which will be in London so he'll have to stay over.

I don't want to be a buzzkill but I'm not really happy that he'll be on multiple work jollies through December while I'm at home on my own with a toddler and a newborn. I'd rather play it by ear and see how the new baby settles before he assumes it's ok to commit.

Am I being unreasonable here?

[DartmoorDoughnut]

It's always worse worrying and building things up when normally it's nothing! Glad you've talked and all is resolved

[witsender]

I fully agree that it is the assumption that is the killer, it says so much about the differing expectations placed on us. When you are expecting your first, you quite literally have no idea how it is going to feel or work, and haven't experienced the disparity between two parents yet.

And going from 1 to 2 is a whole other ball game!! Dh went back to work when ds was 4 days old and dd was 21 months. Fuck me that was hard. I thought I had parenting nailed with just the one, but managing the needs of 2 very small ones is a constant juggling act, especially when you are all tired.

[mum2Bomg]

I'm glad you've had a chat and feel better OP xxx

[mum2Bomg]

Lol my DH has just told me decided not to go as they have announced it and it's 2 days from my due date!

[XinnaJane]

I think it's perfectly reasonable to expect a minor sacrifice in the early days. It's not like it's his best friend's wedding, or a job interview. It's a bloody Christmas party! This should occur to a considerate partner without you having to spell it out. Why make the OPs life harder than it has to be for the sake of a Christmas party?