To be jealous?

[ScarlettB18]

Hi everyone,

I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and just found out my SIL is pregnant.

I'm really happy for her and my brother but at the same time a bit sad because this is my first baby (their second) and I don't want any attention taken away from my baby.

I feel like I'll have my baby then only a few months later their baby will be here and mine will be forgotten about? am I being a pregnant psycho?! I am really happy for them and excited just a bit sad that it might take away from my pregnancy/newborn etc?

I've never met anyone like this in real life! Yabu.

Is this sort of feeling exclusive to women?

Never hear men complaining of this. All this rubbish of stealing thunder. It's ridiculous

My brother thinks I stole his thunder. His baby is due 5 month after mine but I'd found out I was pregnant a day before he announced his.

But my brother is a huge attention seeker. Luckily his girlfriend isn't

YABU

Yep sorry agree with almost everyone else, you're being ridiculous and acting like a child.

Welcome to AIBU OP

OP, you are being ridiculous. Do you really think they planned this to make you jealous? I suggest you grow up.

Fucking hell people!? She's said she admits to being unreasonable, a bit of support for a worried young first time mum beyond mumsnet now is it? I don't care if it's AIBU, it's bloody vicious.

Of course OP sounds young. She is 18 and it comes across in the posts.

YABU. If you think you are the black sheep and we're forced out, why on earth do you think they are going to be around to help you? You have chosen to have this baby, you have a partner therefore it's your job to look after the baby and yourself. You do sound very young.

I came along 3 months after my cousin, who was the first baby in the family. My aunt wasn't happy about it either. It's pathetic and she has always been a bit funny with me. Funnily enough I have always got on very well with that cousin and he thinks of me like a sister.

OP has accepted she is being silly about this. She has thanked people for the kick up the arse. You can stop piling in now.

Why are people giving her such a hard time? She's been extremely honest and has the self-awareness to understand her feelings are unreasonable, but wants help in fathoming why she feels like this. This is her first baby. She wants support and she wants his/her arrival into the world to be something special and celebrated. I don't understand the spite.

Me and sil were due 2 days apart! They ended up 3 weeks apart. It's lovely for the most part!

Bunch of bastards you lot are.

I do see where you're coming from OP, i'll admit it's hard not to compare their development given they're exactly the same age (but all mum friends do this anyway every time we meet up), and DS is obviously the best baby ever, so that's kinda awks. But obviously SIL feels the same about her kid so it all evens out harmoniously in the end and as I say, it's lovely! :)

Don't voice this to anyone. It doesn't make you sound very nice. I don't get it either - I was beyond thrilled my sister announced she was pregnant when I was 3 months pregnant and dn and dd now 3 months apart In age and play brilliantly.