To be really pissed off with work

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So the other day DP took ds to the gp who then said to take him to a and e because his breathing wasn't good enough.
Dp phoned me at work to tell me obviously so I told work and said I'll need to go.
They said no, because there was only 2 of us in that day (me and manager) but they'll phone to see if someone can come in then I can go.
Then just fucking walked off for the rest of the day leaving me at the tills on my own so I couldn't leave or anything, and never bothered to tell me if someone was coming in or not. (I work in a shop)
I know I should have just walked out and gone but dp was texting me and it wasn't an emergency emergency, they were still in the assesment ward, but we did have to stay in hospital overnight because he wasn't getting enough oxygen so it was quite bad. And we just had a letter saying we owe loads of rent and im pregnant and we are skint so getting fired not an option right now unless we want to be homeless.
And when I called in sick the next say because I was still in hospital with ds they seemed a bit annoyed.

Aobu to think that if someone asks to leave because their 3 year old has to go to a and e because the go is worried about their breathing that you should just fucking let them? The manager could have done tills so it wouldn't have been the end of the world. They also could easily have got someone to come in if they had bothered because there is a massive version of the same shop down the road and someone could have come from there if they needed.

The time off for emergencies wouldn't count for the first day though as the child was being cared for by a parent. Emergency in these terms is normally nobody else to look after the child.

If I DH and I were both st home when one child got sick one of us would stay at home with other child while other parent went to A&E. It isn't poor parenting to let the child's dad to take her to A&E. Nice for employer to let OP go but not completely unfeeling.

Well in that scenario i would have just told them i am going! My child comes first, not work. That will never change. If my employer has issue then sorry its tough bloody shit.

Yanbu

When my dd1 was about 16 months old she was admitted to hospital with gastroenteritis. I was a single parent and she got admitted on the Friday, discharged on the saturday and readmitted on Sunday evening after going downhill again. I rang work first thing Monday morning and told them the situation.

I went back to work on Wednesday (so 2 days off) and got called into a meeting for a warning. The (male) manager told me I had insufficient child care lined up and I needed to sort it out. Apparently being in hospital is no excuse. I asked him who was looking after HIS children when they were ill. He said his wife. I replied well I don't have a wife, or a husband. In fact it's just me and I can't be everywhere and my dd comes first when she's so ill.

I walked out that day, got a new job (with a much nicer boss) and despite it being 17 years ago, I still get so bloody angry when I think of the attitude shown to me that day.

Zero compassion or understanding.

YABU for wanting to be with your child when they are in hospital struggling to breathe, OP. HOW WOULD YOUR WORKPLACE COPE WITHOUT YOU??

Also, I think you should have an abortion since you are so poor and irresponsible.

While you're at it, you should leave your DP too because he should've taken time off work instead of you.

/sarcasm

Jeez, this thread is so classically AIBU it would be funny if it wasn't about a poor three year old in hospital.

You will always get people on here (probably business owners) who think any kind of unexpected time off work is unacceptable no matter what the circumstances.

Of course YANBU.

The first day or 2 of an unexpected hospital stay can be uncertain, worrying and exhausting especially with it being a young child. Employers should be more understanding and give you and your DP a day or 2 unpaid leave to work out a plan, who stays in hospital during the day, who stays overnight, who works, when the overnight stayer can get some sleep, can relatives help and when etc...

My dhs boss has been off for nearly 2 months as his son is in a medically induced coma. And he hasn't been with the company much over a year. Some employers are nicer than others.

What a dick. I hope you find the pregnancy leaflet detailing your rights helpful.

The poor three year old was getting appropriate medical attention while his Dad was with him. His mum would be coming to see him when she finished work at 3pm. You really don't need both parents to go to A&E. I don't see the employer as heartless here just short staffed.

What emergency, your DP was with the child. Your DP was ok to take him to the doctor so what made it imperative that 2 parents be in A&E?

Yanbu
Your child is your prority. & if I was in your position I would have left to be with him as soon as I got the call. Your workplace is appalling

I have no idea why you are getting such a bashing on here op.

If any of my employees came to me in that situation I would have driven them myself to their sick child and I would have let them have the next day off also if needed.

I hope your ds is feeling better

I'm a manager and if my staff cacame to me with this then I would let me them go, no hesitation and I would cover their shift for them

If it happened to me, which it has done in the past, then I would be telling my manager I was going home, not asking

Hope he is OK now

Nobody in their right mind would leave a 3 year old on their own in hospital. Any employer should be sympathetic with that and ashamed that you could not leave the previous day..you won't get paid and that is fair enough but if I were you I'd start looking for something else in a bigger store. My dds both work at Boots and they have more than minimum wage and decent managers.

Time to find a new job. Retail jobs are a plenty so you aren't the only one that is dispensable.

And time to stop seeking reassurance on aibu of all places !!! It certainly doesn't represent the opinions of anyone I know.

Of course you both need to be there. A very small child would be distressed and want that to be the case and if his life is in danger and asthma is a life threatening illness then you should be there.

I work in retail and in know what some managers can be like - not all of them as some are better than others. You're not Theresa May, you are not running the country. Your boss has got to just deal with it. He doesn't want to. That's the point