To think this isn't my responsibility?

[CrohnicallyAspie]

My inlaws have recently started a diet and are full of the joys of how they can eat so much and they've already noticed their clothes are looser etc etc.

My DH is also overweight. I'm not.

My inlaws have repeatedly said to me that DH ought to try the diet, why don't I cook him this recipe, he needs to lose weight for health reasons.

Until I snapped at them 'I cook healthy meals, but if he chooses to fill up on crap after dinner then that's his choice and I can't stop him'

So AIBU to think it's not my responsibility for him to lose weight and if he wants to, he needs to a least add in a smidgen of willpower!

basin as I said, DH buys in more junk than I do. The only junk I bought in recently is crisps (and I include things like hula hoops, mini cheddars etc in that category). Like I said, they make handy 'emergency' snacks for DD. She might also have some alongside her lunch. She doesn't have these every single day but maybe 3-4 times a week. And she's perfectly capable of turning them down or 'saving' half the pack if she's full. I would rather she learns to exercise moderation than to ban junk from the house and then find she goes mad buying it as soon as she goes to secondary school!

I am aware DH needs to take better care of his health- but I can't do it for him! I am trying to set a good example for DD, by modelling moderation for her, I explain healthy food choices etc. By which I mean I don't label foods as 'bad' but explain 'DD sweets are bad for your teeth, let's make sure we brush really well tonight' or 'no, you can't have another packet of crisps, one pack is enough for today. Would you like a mini cheese or fruit instead?' (And most of DH's binging happens at work or when DD is in bed, so at least she doesn't see much)

I don't know what else I can do?

Aspie I agree with you! Not for you to sort, I was just saying it's often not as simple as 'not my problem'.

Oh, ok, I misunderstood!

Would they blame you if he smoked?