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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

if your dh had said "you have a lie in, i'll sort the kids out"

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eviletc · 04/02/2007 10:44

would it would be reasonable to expect him to wash up/tidy up the breakfast things? and for him to bath all 3 of his dcs, not just the older two? or that he could at least change dd's stinky nappy even if he wasn't going to bath her? and if he had got out all the ironing to look for a shirt, that he could put it away again and not leave it in the hall?
and even though "he didn't have time" to do all those things, he had time to have a lengthy soak in the bath himself and then play a good 20 mins of playstation with ds.

and he has now buggered off out for the day leaving me with grumpy kids as they think he said he would be back for lunch when in fact he said he would be back for tea?

unreasonable, moi?!!!

feel better now done that

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Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 10:51

Evil????????????????????????????????
dh has never changed a nappy
never made breakfast
never washed up
certainly never tidied anything......

always has lie in & long soak in the bath on Sunday...in fact has never ever helped with anything............
so am going off to start my own disgruntled thread

Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 10:53

incidently...he is stiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiil in bed
and i havn't had a break for 2.5 years
AGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

moondog · 04/02/2007 10:53

Jeezuz
Why do either of you put up with these idiots???

PoppiesMum · 04/02/2007 10:53

Lullabyloo

PoppiesMum · 04/02/2007 10:55

oh, and evil too of course.

NOT unreasonable at all

bambi06 · 04/02/2007 10:55

m y dh always lets me have lie in on sunday mornings while he takes care of two dc and takes them out and arrives back a tlunch time so tha tis lovely BUT ....when i come down stairs its always the same the kitchen looks like a bomb has hit it and TBH when he`s getting them ready theres always lots of arguements going on like" mummy doesnt do it like that!" but i do have a rest and he IS very hands on so i cant complain really but yes it does piss me off tha the cant tidy up after himself GGRRRR

PoppiesMum · 04/02/2007 10:56

Think you should both make plans for next Sunday, tell dh's, get up early and come home late.

AllieBongo · 04/02/2007 10:56

i would go on strike. don't do anything, and for the one that had never helped in 2.5 years, change the locks

Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:00

as far as he's concerned he works very hard all week,some saturdays too...so childcare/housework/cooking etc is totally down to me.
sometimes though...i want to shout
NOT FAIR NOT FAIR NOT FAIR
and stamp.

PoppiesMum · 04/02/2007 11:03

My dh works hard all week, and so do I. Only difference is that he gets in the car to drive to work and I just go downstairs with dd.

You need to leave dh's at home all day with your lo's and show them that is't not an easy alternative to 'real' work

SturdyAngel · 04/02/2007 11:05

Dh & I take it in turns to have a lie in.
DC's 3 & 10 months

His lie in- Me, quietly take the DC downstairs at around 5.30, keep them quiet, fed & occupied until he gets up.

My lie in- I get up to take ds1 down to the loo and give ds2 a bf, then sort out
something to keep ds1 amused while I lie back down with ds2. Get up several times to reach books/toys for ds1 and continually feed ds2. DH gets up around 7/7.30, takes ds1 downstairs. He can't take ds2 because he "needs a minute to wake up!" 20 minutes later he'll come & get ds2,by which point I have been awake for around 3 hours. He then gives them sweets or cakes for breakfast and lets ds1 come up the stairs shouting and after about 5 minutes comes to the bottom of the stairs shouting for him to be quiet & come down. After around 1/2 hour he brings ds2 back upstairs because he is whinging and needs another feed. I get up.

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eviletc · 04/02/2007 11:08

same as lullaby really, he does work hard all week but then on the other hand... poppiesmum you are right - he is off doing his own thing today and i have all 3 oh so lovely dcs all to myself to entertain etc - when is my day off???!!!!...lully - fancy a day out next weekend?!

glad i'm not "being unreasonable" - he did ring up and said " you don't sound very happy"....and i told him why

him (very pathetic)"soorrrreeeee"

balls

He'll do exactly the same next weekend.

and moondog - its because we luuuurve them

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Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:10

lol

trouble is he has never looked after ds...nobody else has ever looked after ds..even for half an hour...so ds would be very distraught if i were to leave him just like that.
we've been joined at the hip for 2.5 years

Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:12

....evil

PoppiesMum · 04/02/2007 11:12

I love my dh too - even more so since reading this thread...he works away during the week and has a 3 hour drive home, but he'll still get up with dd the next day though so I can have an hour or so in bed. (And I don't have to wash up her breakfast things when I get up either) I'm not saying he's perfect at all, but at least he's thoughtful.

Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:14

dh leaves the house at 5am and not back till 7.30 pm at the earliest...often out working all day Saturday too...& long commutes.
He is knackered at the end of the week
but so am i

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eviletc · 04/02/2007 11:14

hmmmm maybe we ould orchestrate an mn "husband swap?" bags i mr poppiesmum!

lully - is your ds going to do pre-school or paygroup or anything when he is 3? you must be a saint dear {{{{{{hugs back}}}}}

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Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:15

yes when he's three...just researching them now

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eviletc · 04/02/2007 11:16

lully - not being rude, but does your dh see ds much if he works such long hours?

{{{more hugs}}}}

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Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:17

def not a saint....no choice in the matter

themoon66 · 04/02/2007 11:18

My DH always let me have a lie in at the weekends when the DCs were little. If they were being noisy, he would bundle them up in the buggy and take them for a long walk. He's even been known to take them for walks in the buggy at 4am if they were being noisy, at teething time for example.

And he always cleans the kitchen if he's up before me. And hangs the washing out. Well, hangs it out in a weird sort of twisted, lumpy way, but its hung out.

I think he does all this due the major guilt trip I lay on him about his massive snoring and grunting keeping me awake half the night.

Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:19

no evil he doesn't
maybe a kiss goodnight several nights a week & we try & go swimming or something as a family on sunday's....that's about it
ds adores him & misses him sooooooooo much

WideWebWitch · 04/02/2007 11:20

He's unreasonable

Lullabyloo · 04/02/2007 11:20

dh is up now & running his bath.....

cheeryface · 04/02/2007 11:20

this is the reason i no longer bother with the lie-ins.

i have so much extra stuff to tidy/sort when i get up that it isn't worth it.

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