DH's parents were often really unpleasant to him growing up, have caused both of us a lot of pain by being nasty to me and controlling and cruel towards him and they have no friends, with good reason. DH is frightened to confront them about their behaviour and things are OK now but only with us trying to hold them at a distance and I find seeing them very difficult. DH also doesn't enjoy seeing them. Growing up, DH didn't do alternate Christmases as his parents fell out with family and didn't want to see them. My family pretty much did alternate Christmases with the occasional one just us. I feel that given the circumstances we shouldn't feel obliged to do alternate Christmases with his parents as neither of us want to spend the day with them and I don't see why we should dread Christmas every other year. DH doesn't either but I think he feels that saying we aren't going to see them when they will think it is their turn, will cause an argument. AIBU to think we shouldn't have to do alternate Christmases with people who make us so unhappy and that there must be a diplomatic way round this?
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To not want to do alternate Christmases?
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JoansPenNecklace · 16/09/2016 09:34
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