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Caught in the act

56 replies

SecretAriel · 12/09/2016 11:32

Ds (6) caught us having sex this morningBlush. I was flustered and embarrassed at the time. He thought something was wrong and was worried. I just told him we were cuddling and let him watch tv before breakfast as a distraction (usually a nono as it distracts so much I struggle to get him ready for school). He seems to have forgotten all about it and believed the cuddling explanation. However dh can't stop worrying about it. He says he remembers catching his dm and df when he was about that age and his df getting very angry about him walking in. Says its a terrible memory and he doesn't want that for our ds. AIBU to be so blasé? Did i do the right thing with the cuddling lie? Feel he is too young for more in depth explanation and too old to believe that we were playing. Dh starting to annoy me with the way he is making a drama of it all, and he says i am uncaring and burying my head in the sand and that ds will be emotionally scarredHmm

OP posts:
Bloopbleep · 13/09/2016 23:34

I couldn't say cuddling because my daughter would want to join us in a cuddle. I said we were having a conversation and could she leave us to it. She did and it was never mentioned again.

ThriftyMama · 13/09/2016 23:49

But no-one yelled at your child so while similar the experiences are not the same and I doubt (from what you have said) traumatic for your child.

Might be worth pointing out the differences instead of the similarities.

How the hell did you have the energy for Monday morning sex?!? You need to start another thread to share your secret 😋

Ditsy4 · 14/09/2016 00:03

Must have had a quiet weekend!

Your explanation is fine not exactly lying just omitting the truthGrin
Agree your DH was traumatised because his father shouted angrily at him. He probably wouldn't have remembered otherwise.

Loving some of the stories. I think one of ours walked in but it was never brought up again.it was too long ago to remember what was said.

charlestonchaplin · 14/09/2016 07:36

Boundaries

If your six year old is accessing hardcore porn then you have some serious problems and definitely should expect social services to turn up on your doorstep.

LittleLionMansMummy · 14/09/2016 08:09

The reason it's such a vividly bad memory for your dh is because he got shouted at. You handled it fine and your ds won't remember, especially if he's not yet aware of the 'mechanics' of sex?

I wish dh did morning sex. I'm 7 months pregnant and am too shattered by the evening. Lucky you!

Unacceptable · 14/09/2016 09:03

You handled it perfectly OP and your dh will get over it.
Being caught by a teenager is far, far more disturbing all round Blush

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