To be a fat bastard and do nothing about it.

[Lizmay12]

So I've put on 3 stone since I had my children. I'm constantly down about it always moaning. Feel absolutely shit about myself. God forbid DP tries to be nice and surprise me with organising a childcare and taking me out. I spoil it whinging about my fat belly and having no clothes to fit me. All this and I do absolutely fuck all to change my lifestyle.
I eat to much shit and moan about being fat.

Yes I am being VFUCKINGU!!!!!! Why can't I change my ways !!!!!

Exercise makes me feel good OP but I can lose weight in huge amounts just from changing the food side, no exercise involved. I know people who go to the gym and keep their diet full of junk and end up putting on weight.

Big eye opener for me too. And as much as I love a good walk, I do find it easier to eat more healthily than do masses of exercise daily ...

Good luck OP.

nb - carbs ARE sugar. Just that if you eat eg wholemeal bread you get a lot of fibre too so it's much better for you than a Mars bar (no fibre).

The effect of fibre is to make your stomach and liver absorb sugar more slowly. Wherever there is sugar in nature, eg fruit, there's a lot of fibre too.
So eating an apple is great. Drinking half a pint of apple juice is terrible.

Here is a link to a video all about sugar. Do do watch it - great motivator. Lots of science but persevere.

You may as well drink loads of wine as eat loads of sugar.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=dBnniua6-oM

Don't forget you can ease those withdrawal symptoms with an ice pack on your temples, you don't have to just suffer through. There's no penance to pay here.

Also, enjoy the withdrawal symptoms if you can get your head around that - every day of them is one day closer to your body recovering from it, and them being finished. It's a finite situation.

Another great top that really works for me is to slow start your diet. It might drag things out a little bit it's better than going cold turkey as it gives your brain and body a bit of time to slowly get used to being on a diet.

How's it going?

Can I suggest an easy breakfast? I make a huge veggie frittata on a Sunday. About a dozen eggs, some feta peppers mushroom frozen spinach salt pepper chilli flakes. Bung in the oven. A bit every day for breakfast with a piece of toast. If I'm hungry after dinner I eat a bit. Does me a week at work. No thought. Good start to every day and if you start well...

Please, please read The Goddess Revolution by Mel Wells or at least check out the reviews on Amazon. Really life changing stuff. She focuses on long term health and how to stop yo-yo dieting and punishing ourselves by over-eating.

I haven't rtft but have lost 12kg in the last 3 months by doing one simple thing... not eating unless and until I am really hungry. If I want something unhealthy, I have some veggies first and then see if I still want the original thing. If I do, I just eat it.
Also, self-hatred is not encouraging. What is encouraging is success. Seeing your cheekbones peeking through and a spare hole in your belt. So do your 5:2 or SW or any format of restricted eating for a week. You'll be thinner. I guarantee it. And then you'll have some motivation to go on.
You go, girl!

My top tip is to have a peppermint tea on an evening sometime after dinner. The mint makes me feel like I have brushed my teeth. So I don't feel inclined to eat any junk afterwards.

Good luck Op.

Good luck op

I was you 4.months ago. I had a 'moment' in tgi fridays when I caught sight of myself.in the mirrors. I wasn't impressed.

3 St overweight. Eating and drinking far too much.

I joined (or rejoined) sw. I am now over 1.5st down and feel 1000% better.

What has worked well for me is making sure I take the time and effort over my own meals as what i do everyone else's. I haven't rigidly stuck to it. We have a takeaway every Friday. I have swapped some things around and made better choices.

I cook things I want to eat. Like soup for my lunches or a quiche if I fancy it. Before I would have just had a sandwich because I was so busy.

But if anyone.else had wanted homemade soup I would have made time to do it for them.

I have realised that me and.my health and well being are just as important as every one elses and that was a light bulb moment.

We have some family stuff.going off at the moment that has been difficult this week. But after a few wobbly days I am back on it and back to looking after me as much as everyone else.

You have to be a bit selfish to achieve things that are important to you. And losing weight is important if it affecting your mental and physical wellbeing.

For the wet cold days when I can't get out I have a mini trampoline. I put in front of the tv and watch iPlayer while I'm exercising, so I don't get bored. I do jogging on the spot, "ski walking" and power walking on the spot, while holding 1kg hand weights. It's seriously good exercise. And when other people are about so I can't use the living room, I have a mini stepper and another pair of weights tucked behind one of the sofas in the summerhouse. Half an hour watching either the tv or iPlayer on my tablet really works up a sweat.

What is encouraging is success. Seeing your cheekbones peeking through and a spare hole in your belt. So do your 5:2 or SW or any format of restricted eating for a week. You'll be thinner. I guarantee it. And then you'll have some motivation to go on.

Spot on, Villainess! It's success that breeds motivation, not the other way round!

Some tips from the 5:2 threads:
No snacking -ever! Snacks are a recent invention, and they have no place in a healthy eating regime. All they do is keep insulin levels high. You need to keep 4-5 hours between meals.
Use smaller plates;
Put less on your fork;
Eat slowly and savour every mouthful;
When you've finished your dinner and think you'd rather like another helping (or some pudding) - put a timer on for 20 minutes. Chances are you won't feel you need anything.
When you have a treat (and we all need a treat every now and again) - say a piece of chocolate - examine it closely before popping it into your mouth. Ask yourself, do I really need this?

I could go on - but here's the actual thread.

Sorry - villainous.

I am laying in a bath about to go to my WW meeting. DS is 7 months old and it's been a hard slog with sleepless nights etc. I've lost 1 stone so far just from eating a bit less and making some swaps. I know that to get the next half stone off its going to require a lot more work, as this is my comfy weight.

My advice would be;

Habits are hard to break. What's the main food you crave and what's your weak point in the day for eating crap? If you can allow yourself the food you love (for me it's bread and butter) you at more likely to be successful. The worst diets for me have been where I have deprived myself so I'm madly craving. Then when I fall if the wagon I just binge eat and hate myself.

If you tend to pick at crap in the evening you need to either change your routine or change what your snacking on. If you are limiting what you eat in the day then coming in from work and mindlessly eating you need to start preparing what you will eat beforehand so it's ready for you to put your hands straight on it.

Don't under estimate the power of protein to keep hunger at bay and exercise is a great incentive to eat better. If you've bothered to get out and walk or run you are less inclined to fuck that up by eating cake.

Lastly I love group meetings as they keep me motivated. I don't care that they are considered sad by some. Personally I need that accountability each week or else weeks run into months and nothing changes.

Hi OP. I'm kind of in the same boat. I've always been slim, even when I had dd(14). For a couple of months though, I've been binging heavily. Very heavily. I think its to do with the stress of dd's EDs and other problems, and I'm finding it hard to cope. Anyway, I'm 5'2" so very small. I used to be 100lbs, and I was very happy there. Small, lean, healthy. Now I weigh 123lbs - I know its not overweight, but I'm a lot heavier than I was. And its all been gained in body fat. I'm extremely unhealthy, eating more junk food than you can imagine. However, starting from now I am starting a 'health kick'. I'm hoping to eliminate processed foods, some dairy, refined carbs and things that aren't the best for me. I think a thing to remember is its not a diet - its a lifestyle. I feel so down at the moment but I know that when I lose some body fat and gain some muscle mass, I will be so proud of myself and so will my DD. Keep at it OP.

I've managed to lose 3lbs so far!!!! Very pleased with myself.
I looked into many different diets but decided to just cut out all sugar n junk food. No snacks. Just 3 healthy meals a day. No food after 6pm also a d jogging. I'm not going to lie it's been so hard. I'm so grumpy when I'm hungry. But that 3 lbs off is keeping me motivated. Don't want to waste all that hard work.

Thanks for all the posts

Well done, Liz!

Starting's the hardest bit - so you're on your way.

Lizmay well done!
Is there no way of planning meals/snacks so you're not hungry? So you eat the same amount of food in the day but more spread out? Or have cucumbers, peppers, cucumbers which are low calorie content?

I'm grumpy just from the tiredness

Grandma
I think you may be right I am getting better now but the tiredness probably doesn't help.

I started a food diary and I am writing everything down to keep me on track.

Thanks again for the posts. I am just thinking of the future me.

Update :
8 whole lbs GONE
I can't believe it. My clothes feel looser and this has all been through my diet. Only exercise I get is general housework and the occasional walk.

Hoorayyy

Lizmay12 I've just read the thread and wow what an amazing start! I'm on my own weightloss journey. I'm an "emotional snacker" and eat food to make myself feel better after a bad day etc, or even to reward myself. Getting a handle on that has been crucial for me. Wish you all the best

Curb- thank you! I can honestly say after the first week i feel so much better. The amount of times I cried like a child because I was craving junk, made me realise just how bad an unhealthy diet. I believe that sugar is an addiction and creates a vicious circle of eating.--

I feel healthy, energetic and amazing !!!