That a 4 yo cannot "role there eyes"

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Dp is in a grump because apparently our 4yo walked into the kitchen and rolled his eyes at him. I defended him saying he's 4.. Relax a bit. Dp says I think the sunshines out of his arse and it's embarrassing. I just think 4 year olds walk around in a bubble and sometimes they may not great you with a "hello daddy how are you" sometimes there mind is fixed on something and they forget pleasentreas. He's not been naughty or anything. I'm sick of my dp grumpy attitude !

I would want to know why the 4 year old rolled his eyes, but you shouldn't make excuses for doing this. I think your dp has right to be irritated at you for dismissing his concerns about rude behaviour in your child.

My 4yo rolls his eyes when he's trying to explain something complex. He uses it as an expression and flaps his arms about. Its pretty comical tbh. I don't point it out as I take it in context with the situation.

It could be that your DS rolls his eyes but doesn't understand the implication of doing that to his parent who sounds like he could do with being eye rolled actually

I haves friend who got called in to school because her just 5yo eye rolled the teacher. Admittedly she also pushed her chair back from the table and muttered 'for fuck's sake' in an aggrieved tone (she had taken exception to a yr r task) but, y'know, thin end of the wedge, op, thin end of the wedge

All of mine have been champion eye rollers by 4. They just have to learn social niceties and when/ where not appropriate.

Hard to say who is BU though - possibly dh does have some point about the nice pedestal you have ds on? As well as feeling undermined by you in his own parenting? Definitely time for you and dh to sit down and discuss like adults, so that you are a united front in parenting terms.

It sounds like dad was in the kitchen, kid ran through excited to show granny, didn't acknowledge father properly. Both worthy of father stropping. Next time a "hellooooooo?? Am I invisible? Am I the invisible man?" would raise a smile and make the point.