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That a 4 yo cannot "role there eyes"

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Moomoomango · 11/09/2016 11:43

Dp is in a grump because apparently our 4yo walked into the kitchen and rolled his eyes at him. I defended him saying he's 4.. Relax a bit. Dp says I think the sunshines out of his arse and it's embarrassing. I just think 4 year olds walk around in a bubble and sometimes they may not great you with a "hello daddy how are you" sometimes there mind is fixed on something and they forget pleasentreas. He's not been naughty or anything. I'm sick of my dp grumpy attitude !

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StStrattersOfMN · 11/09/2016 12:21

Your dp sounds like a stroppy over sensitive tit

No he doesn't, he sounds like a parent who cares about how his child behaves.

If you're not going to stop a four year old rolling their eyes, at what age, exactly, do you suddenly start stopping them from behaving rudely? Much easier to nip behaviour like that in the bud.

Jizzomelette · 11/09/2016 12:25

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BarbarianMum · 11/09/2016 12:27

I think YABU. Rolling your eyes is rude so your ds was rude, even if he didn't mean to be. It would be totally appropriate to pull him up on this, all it would take is 1 firm word. Why do you think your dp is lying?

MinonsMovie · 11/09/2016 12:31

StStrattersOfMN agreed. The age should be considered as a measure of how to deal with it, not as an excuse for it.

WorraLiberty · 11/09/2016 12:32

I can't make head nor tail of this, like what actually happened and why Confused

FrancisCrawford · 11/09/2016 12:34

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WorraLiberty · 11/09/2016 12:36

He was running through the room to show his gran his new fish, then he walked into the kitchen and rolled his eyes at his Dad?

Why? And where does the forgetting to say "Hello Daddy, how are you" come into it?

Did his Dad say hello and your DS ignore him and roll his eyes?

MinonsMovie · 11/09/2016 12:36

A favourite here is, "...do you know your eyes are rolling... you must be really tired... I think I'm early night is needed tonight..." (In mock dramatic tones)
It's a nice playful reminder without making a huge deal of it.
Usually ends in a bit of laughter and some agreement that there won't be any more rolling eyes!

phillipp · 11/09/2016 13:10

There is clearly more to this.

Yes a four year old can roll their eyes.

They will have seen it at school/nursery/tv etc it's not something only children with an older sibling do.

If your dp is right and your four year old is rude and you refuse to ever acknowledge it, then I can see why it's pissing him off. The fact that you think your Ds couldn't have possibly done it and physically unable to do this suggests, this is the case.

He is four, four year olds are rude. It's our job to teach them what is and isn't rude.

Frusso · 11/09/2016 13:23

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crazywriter · 11/09/2016 13:49

Yes 4yos can roll their eyes. Mine does it and she's told off for it. It's taking a while ton get it into her that it's rude but neither me of DH get childish about it.

YWNBU to be angry at your DP reaction but yourgent child is rude and he has a sort of point.

SpeckledyBanana · 11/09/2016 13:51

My 3 yo rolls her eyes. Usually at me.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 11/09/2016 14:01

I don't understand what happened here.

Your 4yo walked into the room en route to collect his fish, happens upon his father (who he didn't anticipte would be there?) and rolls his eyes at unexpectedly finding him there?

If that's what happened, I'm not surprised your husband is a bit peeved. 4 is rather young for Kevin the teenager attitude.

proudmummyoftwo · 11/09/2016 14:10

Well tbf my 3 yr old rolls her eyes a lot when she doesn't get her own way! So I'm guessing a 4 year old can! However, she gets told to stop being a stroppy bum and she usually stops and starts laughing! Haha. Sure it's how you deal with it

Trifleorbust · 11/09/2016 14:15

Of course he can roll his eyes. Lots of kids do. Why do you doubt what you partner is saying in this instance? I get why you might be surprised, but do you think he is making it up?

StStrattersOfMN · 11/09/2016 14:24

Sounds like you need to listen to your DH a bit more, he's far more clued up than you are. Maybe he won't grump, I'd be pissed off if my child was rude to me, and my partner defended him.

Of course 4 year old can roll their eyes, they can swear too. They should t be doing either, and it's a parent's job to teach them that.

Soubriquet · 11/09/2016 14:26

Yes. What actually happened

If your ds rolled his eyes at your Dh just because he dared to say good morning I'm not surprised he is pissed

Sunshineonacloudyday · 11/09/2016 14:28

perhaps ur 4 yr old was doing it at his father cos they realise he's a massive arse ?

This

Sunshineonacloudyday · 11/09/2016 14:29

Of course 4 year old can roll their eyes, they can swear too. They should t be doing either, and it's a parent's job to teach them that.

I wonder who teaches them. If its not the op then it must be the dh and now he wants to complain after teaching him bad habits.

twinkletash · 11/09/2016 14:43

YAbu a 4 year old can definitely roll their eyes and have an attitude to go with it

phillipp · 11/09/2016 14:43

I wonder who teaches them. If its not the op then it must be the dh and now he wants to complain after teaching him bad habits.

So you think the OP and the dh are the only people this child has ever come into contact with?

StStrattersOfMN · 11/09/2016 14:59

Don't be silly Sunshine, nursery, kindergarten, school, and I expect he's probably allowed out of the house at other times too.

Sunshineonacloudyday · 11/09/2016 15:25

Does he understand what he did from what the op has posted he was in his own dream world. Looking forward to showing grandma his fish.

WankingMonkey · 11/09/2016 15:40

DD rolls her eyes sometimes, she is nearly 4. SO yes a 4 year old can...

However, thats not the issue here really.

MiaowTheCat · 11/09/2016 15:42

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