To plan a few skive days with my youngest DD 4

[Kiddiewinks2008]

My littlest is starting school and I'm feeling so sad- feel like I am losing my baby to the 'system' and losing my littlw hang out in parks weekday best friend.
I might do a couple of friday skive days with her this first term so I can still hang out with her a bit! Aibu? Is that really bad?!? If i had the money I would take both my kids travelling for a year so I could spend more time with them!

Why is it 'needy' to want to spend time with your 4 year old?? Education at this age isn't compulsory for a reason!

Personally I know plenty of people who have done this, or done 3 day weeks for the fort term or whatever. It truly doesn't harm children to spend a bit of extra free time with their mum.

They have their entire lives to adhere to a rigid system, and time off together is precious. Make the most of skive days while you can!

She is FOUR ! Have as much time as you like.It IS a system, its so artificial, go with your gut and if you do get the chance ....go traveling with them for a year ....I did with mine and it was life changing.

It doesn't need to be authorised or not authorised as the child is below Compulsory School Age. The code for the register is X, meaning "not required to attend".

No, the absence will not be marked as X. That is for The days when a child is on the school's roll, for example when there is a staggered start and the child is only doing mornings, for example.

It will be marked an O because it is an unauthorised absence. The only difference for an under-5 (at least in my school) is that the EWO will not get involved. You will still have poor attendance on your record if you are under 5.

• not on the school's roll

Isn't that what weekends and after school are for?

Well dd's part time attendance was authorised by the LA (she had a statement of SEN and it meant that funding her statement was cheaper) as she was doing a home based intervention programme so absences were marked as educated off site. Dd had only attended school nursery 2 mornings a week, she increased to five mornings a week in reception gradually and then did five full days in y1 (spring term birthday)
She has attended school regularly since without problems.
LA recognised that home intervention was more effective than school anyway dd began nursery with significant delays (hence the statement) and ended foundation stage most able in her class despite attending probably 40% of the time.

Having part time attendance is fine before 5. If you go to the park on days that you aren't meant to be in school, that's fine. The issue is "skiving" days you are meant to be in school. I think it shows a lack of respect for education.

Thanks for your interesting responses to my post- I don't think I phrased myself properly.

Firstly, I am not a needy and selfish parent. I have plenty of adult friends of my own to hang out with- and hobbies- and i work 25 hours a week in a professional job- however I was trying to convey that this is the end of an era for me and that I am sad about it and am not quite ready for it to end

Secondly- I dont have some flagrant disregard for the education system- my son has full attendance however in reception, he did have a few 'skive' days as he was knackered.

Thirdly, i wouldnt of course tell my dd that we were 'skiving' ffs- as someone has pointed out- she is 4 and doesnt actually have to be there until next year anyway.

Next time I will learm to phrase my posts better!

I wouldn't. It creates bad habits. You will never go more than 8 weeks without at least a weeks holiday so there really is no need.

This. You also risk them faking illness to get mummy days.

Focus on finding something for you to do for yourself outside of being a mum. It will do you the world of good.

If your that desperate to 'hang out' with your little DD go to the park after school rather than skive a day