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AIBU to have left a note? Parking dispute

107 replies

Pinkbabe1 · 09/09/2016 13:03

Diagram attached. Neighbour basically has always parked their car in a strip of land right outside our house which is not a parking space. They have a garage but have two cars so park one of them on this strip of land.

We have been tolerant of that and have not complained in the past, despite that they have never asked if it is ok to park right outside our house. They often come back late at night banging their car doors repeatedly which is right by our daughters bedroom and wakes her up. They are also know to have let their visitors park behind them which is infront of my car so I have to ask them to move when I want to go out.

Over the past couple of days they seems to be parking the car further back so that it encroaches on where I reverse my car off my drive (diagram isn't good but it's very tight)

Last night when I returned late they had parked it so far back that I couldn't get on my drive without hitting their car, so had to park on the street. As it was late, I left a note saying:

"hello - didn't want to knock the door as its late but I couldn't get my car on the drive tonight as your car is parked so far back that it's blocking our drive. Please could you park further forward - Thankyou"

When I left for nursery this morning I noticed the note was gone but the car had not been moved. When I returned the car had been parked so far forward it was parked on part of House 2's garden. Said neighbour then appeared from his house saying very sarcastically that I must be a terrible driver if I could not get my car on the drive with his car in that position and the note was not necessary.

AIBU?!

AIBU to have left a note? Parking dispute
OP posts:
pollyblack · 09/09/2016 14:45

Could you fence the bottom of your garden so people don't walk over it?

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 09/09/2016 14:45

Also loving the diagram Grin. It should be the law for parking threads.

Whether he has the "right" to park there or not, your note was polite & entirely reasonable. Your neighbour is a twat.

As for walking across your garden? WTF? I wouldn't be having that! Could you plant something prickly and fast growing in borders?

TattyCat · 09/09/2016 14:50

I'd do what my DDad did many years ago. A neighbour made it impossible for him to get in and out of his drive (proper impossible - he was a good driver). Eventually he lost patience and reversed into the other car's side door.

Solved the problem.

Jinxxx · 09/09/2016 14:50

Start parking your car further forward, opposite your own drive. If you leave only a car's length or a bit less behind you, he won't be able to park in the space, but it will give you room to manoevre if he tries to block you in.

DeadGood · 09/09/2016 14:53

Ooooh OP no advice but your neighbour sounds like SUCH a defensive arsehole!

amicissimma · 09/09/2016 14:58

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WaitrosePigeon · 09/09/2016 15:06

What a prick! YANBU. Great diagram, love it Grin

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 09/09/2016 15:32

I want a parking problem just so that I can do a diagram!
(Not really, previous house had arsey neighbours)

notapizzaeater · 09/09/2016 15:38

I can't believe they walk across your garden - I'd plant a very prickly bush right at the edge so he has to get out of his car into it

FrancisCrawford · 09/09/2016 15:57

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MintyChops · 09/09/2016 16:19

He is an asshole and I really, really hope it turns out that you own the land. Cheeky fucker.

PikachuSayBoo · 09/09/2016 16:25

Diagram is good but to be honest without it either being to scale or seeing the area for myself I don't know if you're being unreasonable or not.

Maybe the neighbour is right and there's enough room for you to get out and you're a crap,driver! Grin. Maybe neighbour is a twat.

Some twat left a note on my car once asking me not to park on the opposite side of the street to her drive. Perfectly wide road where two cars can pass. I pointed out to her if she can't get out a drive with a car the other side of the road then she's a Crap driver!

SquinkiesRule · 09/09/2016 18:00

From the diagram it does look your garden should have a more square corner on it, I bet the last people backed up in that direction so much it wore it to that shape, he's probably parking on the edge of your garden and needs to park elsewhere. Once you fence it in that is.

MakeMyWineADouble · 09/09/2016 18:05

Agree a fence or barrier at the end of you garden should solve help a lot and you need need to deal with the shitty neighbor to do it just the potentially shitty landlord Wink

Moomichi · 09/09/2016 18:08

Update us when you hear back!

LyndaNotLinda · 09/09/2016 18:17

Where are the drives and garages for the other houses just out of interest? Looks like he's parking in your reversing bit as it is and blocking the path

Lovely diagram by the way - 10/10!

nancy75 · 09/09/2016 18:20

Op do you own the house? ( you have mentioned landlord a couple of times)

LyndaNotLinda · 09/09/2016 18:24

I have committed the cardinal sin of not reading all your posts - am assuming that their garages have drives in front of them and that they're too fucking lazy to walk the extra distance.

But this: House 1 is friendly with him so House 1 and neighbour walk over our garden and House 2 garden to get to their properties as they have to walk round his car - this would absolutely give me the rage!! How dare they?? How bloody dare they?

Speak to their landlords - both of them. It's not a public access route - it's your land. Cheeky buggers

I hate them both

StarTravels · 09/09/2016 18:40

Your note was fine and very polite.

At my parents house there is a similar setup. It's a shared drive with neighbours but the land directly opposite my parents front garden is on the deeds as owned by them even though you might assume it was "public" on first sight.

Definitely a good idea to get the deeds.

Pinkbabe1 · 09/09/2016 20:47

Thanks all for your messages - I am waiting on confirmation for the landlord as to where our boundaries lie and I will update when I hear back!

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Scarydinosaurs · 09/09/2016 21:01

Oh pay online and don't keep us hanging!

WhatsMyNameNow · 09/09/2016 21:29

OP, how old are the houses?

The OPs diagram is excellent but the thread could still be improved with the addition of some photos.

Just sayin' Smile

All that matters in cases like this is what the land registry says. They may well be allowed to park there and the fact that it's outside the OPs house is irrelevant.

Pinkbabe1 · 09/09/2016 22:07

Well - the suspense is over and the land does belong to us that he is parking on! Now how do I approach this?!

AIBU to have left a note? Parking dispute
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MakeMyWineADouble · 09/09/2016 22:12

I think you need to go through your land lord as its technically his he may have some arrangement with them re parking there if he doesn't I would point out with him what's happening and ask him to make the land you are paying rent on/for secure

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